Please always remember that you as the Caregiver also needs to be having time for your self and keeping healty as well
If you are not healthy then who would look after them right
So please I ask you to really do a though inventory of your needs as well and have it so you are healthy emotionally and physically
Take a couple hours off and do something for YOU
YOU really do deserve it
My hats are off to all those that do the caregiving for their loved ones at home ......
I also will say that if you are not able to do it alone perhaps hire a person check everything out first though full bkgd on them and who they have had in care before ect ect ...police check as well
If for some reason the time has come to place the loved one in a NH or Retirment Home
Check out the thread on the NH's and also ask for full disclosure and reports on that home
Just because they may cost alot doesnt mean a thing you need to know what type of care and ppl there will be there for your loved one......meals, bedchecks, Activities ,safety features in bathrooms ....the whole nine yards
Theses are your most precious gifts so please do it for them
And please dont feel that " guilt"
Most will and it is a heavy feeling to carry around so let it go you did what you could for so long and now things have to change for whatever reason........You tried and thats what is important IMHO at least you did try.........
God Bless the Caregiver and their Loved ones .......