Aunt With Alzheimer's

New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
[ << Previous Thread | Next Thread >> ]

memaw12
Regular Member


Date Joined Mar 2013
Total Posts : 89
   Posted 8/23/2017 7:31 AM (GMT -7)   
I've never posted on this board before but I am on several other boards on HW.

I talked to my 84 year old aunt today for the first time in about a year. I knew she had alzheimers but did not expect her to be so mixed up. I have cried ever since I got off the phone with her.

She kept going back and forth from the past to the present and she was crying because she had not seen me in a long time and was happy to hear my voice.

She thought we were both much younger and didn't remember anything about my being ill with CFS so I told her I just had the flu. I really didn't know what to say to keep her from getting upset.

I am devastated that she is so out of it and my uncle said this was one of the more positive conversations that shes had recently. She did not want to hang up because she was afraid she'd never hear my voice again. I told my uncle to call me for her when she was up to having another talk.

I didn't know it would be like this. I'm so sorry for all the folks and their loved ones that are going through this horrible disease. I had no idea it was so awful. Thank you for letting me vent.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia since 1978. Also, O.A. IBS, Hypertension, Hypothyroidism, Pelvic Prolapse, Small Brain Cyst, Tremors, Type 2 Diabetes, Chemical Sensitivities, Sleep Disorder, Allergies, Ocular Migraines, Curved Spine, Degenerative Disc Disease.

Post Edited (memaw12) : 8/23/2017 8:38:15 AM (GMT-6)


Steve n Dallas
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 4774
   Posted 8/23/2017 7:53 AM (GMT -7)   
Yeppers... It can be pretty ugly.

On bad days, my sister and I would joke about "at least tomorrow he/she won't remember this....or that."

But we do what we can when we can.

Never "argue" with your aunt or anyone else in this condition. Just say yes or maybe later to stall them etc... No sense getting their blood pressure up if you can avoid it.

memaw12
Regular Member


Date Joined Mar 2013
Total Posts : 89
   Posted 8/23/2017 8:15 AM (GMT -7)   
Thanks for the reply. I tried not to talk about anything negative and to go along with what she was remembering. I don't see her anymore because we don't live in the same state and I'm too ill to travel.

She had her 84th birthday on Monday but couldn't remember that when I asked about her bday party so I just let it go. She asked me why I hadn't visited her and I mentioned that I was too ill to travel. This upset her, she didn't recall anything about my illness so I just told her I had the flu.

She laughed when I told her I was 77 years old and I realized she thought we were still young. I feel so bad for her.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia since 1978. Also, O.A. IBS, Hypertension, Hypothyroidism, Pelvic Prolapse, Small Brain Cyst, Tremors, Type 2 Diabetes, Chemical Sensitivities, Sleep Disorder, Allergies, Ocular Migraines, Curved Spine, Degenerative Disc Disease.

Steve n Dallas
Veteran Member


Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 4774
   Posted 8/23/2017 11:26 AM (GMT -7)   
My dad was in the first part of his alzheimer's journey when my older brother turned 60.

The math was driving him nuts... How can he have a 60 year old son when he's younger than that confused

memaw12
Regular Member


Date Joined Mar 2013
Total Posts : 89
   Posted 8/24/2017 1:32 AM (GMT -7)   
It's so sad. I could hear that it bothered her a lot when I talked about our age or our children's ages. I had told her that my oldest daughter, who is 58, had a hip replacement surgery but she said that couldn't be because she was too young to have that done.

This was before I realized how she was thinking. I do want to continue to talke to her but I don't really know which subjects to avoid. I guess I'll just take it one conversation at a time.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Fibromyalgia since 1978. Also, O.A. IBS, Hypertension, Hypothyroidism, Pelvic Prolapse, Small Brain Cyst, Tremors, Type 2 Diabetes, Chemical Sensitivities, Sleep Disorder, Allergies, Ocular Migraines, Curved Spine, Degenerative Disc Disease.
New Topic Post Reply Printable Version
Forum Information
Currently it is Tuesday, November 21, 2017 8:56 AM (GMT -7)
There are a total of 2,896,231 posts in 317,883 threads.
View Active Threads


Who's Online
This forum has 157473 registered members. Please welcome our newest member, Johncb88.
401 Guest(s), 16 Registered Member(s) are currently online.  Details
alephnull, RedSparrow, Energetist, Doggiedo, Casa11, Johncb88, adamas, Missouri, Jaxy, BJD55, Sherrine, ASAdvocate, quincy, SharonZ, k07, straydog


About Us | Advertise | Donate
Newsletter | Privacy Policy & Disclaimer
Follow HealingWell.com on Facebook Follow HealingWell.com on Twitter Follow HealingWell.com on Pinterest
©1996-2017 HealingWell.com LLC  All Rights Reserved.