Concerned about husband’s memory

In January My husband had a serious fall That resulted in a bad brain injury. Then resulting neck surgery this summer. We’re elderly and have both been experiencing what I consider to be fairly normal memory loss, but after his surgery he has been going downhill at an accelerating rate. He’s scheduled for neuropsych testing in a couple of weeks. He has a speech therapist who comes a couple of times a week to help with balance & other problems and she told me that since June his memory is getting much worse. I had to agree.

I forced him to retire in October and we moved his office home but he spends all day in his home office working under the supervision of a fellow attorney. He has made some very serious financial choices with his business. I hear him yelling on the phone, he hells at people who dare to walk on our grass, he acts huffy with me, he isn’t bathing very often, is becoming incontinent and the other day I caught him using my hair dryer to dry the urine in his jeans - while he was wearing them. I’ll tell him something and in two minutes he won’t remember what I asked.

I know depression causes similar changes and he’s definitely depressed. But I feel this is more. He’s under dr. ordered quarantine because he has a procedure coming up, yet every day he comes & tells me that he’s going to run an errand. He can’t remember that he’s supposed to stay at home.

I guess I’d like feedback from those of you who have experience with this journey. Thanks.

I need to do this. The fact that I haven’t thought of doing so is a testament to my advanced years.