I recently have become concerned that my younger sister (51) may have Alzheimers. She is constantly losing her house keys and ends up staying in hotels because she cannot get in her house. She is three to four hours late, even though calls to her when she is only a little late results in "I'll be leaving pretty soon."
SHe has had services like phone and electric cut off because she doesn't pay her bills. She is a hoarder and her house has become uninhabitable.
She is touchy and easily irritated. She has convinced her doctor that she is ADD and is on medication for that.
I was recently out of town and got a call from her asking if she could hang out at my house. (I thought she meant for a couple of hours to use my computer.) She ended up staying for ten days. This meant that our elderly cat who is deathly afraid of her dog was left outside without food or water for a week. She seemed unaware of this. In the past, she would have cared now it is not even a blip on the radar.
When we returned home, she had taken a floor lamp and put it on top of the computer tower. She seemed to think that was a neat idea even though it was very unstable and served no purpose.
A couple of days later she showed up at our house unannounced asking to use the computer to send an email to a co-worker and her boss. She was angry about something. When she asked me to read it before sending it, the last line said something about don't be surprised if this makes me go postal. I was appalled! She had no idea that it would be perceived as a physical threat against her fellow workers and could be grounds for termination.
She has lost most of her friends, those she hasn't lost are in contact with me and are very concerned. She is driving us all crazy with her inappropriateness and lateness. She does not honor any boundaries any longer. She seems unaware of them.
She has been my touchstone throughout my life and I always could count on her. Now I don't even know her.