Sorry I haven't posted in a while but things have gone from bad to worse. The older gentleman who I hired as a caregiver, was leaving my dad alone all day and only coming home at night to sleep. I fired him and now I am back to square one. My father refuses to have anyone else stay with him saying he wants to live alone and is sick of people living with him, he doesn't need anyone there, etc. The doctor told us he doesn't have a problem with dad staying there by himself during the day but would feel more comfortable if someone stayed with him during the night as he could start to wander. (He hasn't so far.) My brother (who lives 2000 miles away) and I are in agreement that I will go over at 7 am, noon, 4 pm and 8 pm to check up on him. I stay anywhere form 30 min. to an hour each time I go. My sister who lives 50 min. away and rarely even visits dad and gives me no help whatsoever, DEMANDS that I immediately hire someone to be there full time, even though dad has refused to allow anyone in the house. She said he doesn't have a choice in the matter and is threatening to make trouble. Her real agenda is that she wants her jobless son to be the caregiver. (He used to be the caregiver and he did a terrible job...letting him drive alone, missing dr. appointments, etc. so I got rid of him.) Now she is telling me to hire him back and I refuse. My sister is a selfish, coniving manipulator who will stop at nothing to get what she wants. I have two questions.
1. Dad gave me power of attorney to handle his affairs and make decisions for him when he can no longer do so. So far, he still runs his own life even though I handle mostly everything regading money, etc. Can she take me to court and force me to make him have a live in caregiver (against his wishes) or have him committed to a nursing home? Has anyone run into something similar to this and if so, how did you handle it?
2. My dad no longer drives so he cannot harm anyone. If he is alone for part of the day, it is possible he could hurt himself (fall, etc.) but that can happen whether he has AD or not. I feel at this point he still should have a say in his daily life and living arrangements. My dad has threatened to sell his house to get away from all of us when we have insisted someone should live with him. The arguments are horrible and they are killing our relationship. I say let him live alone for a while until we can find the perfect person instead of hiring some service to come in that will just send over a bunch of strangers and I guarantee he will not let them into the house. Any advice?????
Thanks a million.