Thanks again Howlyncat for your input and support! (((Hugs)))
Again, I spoke with my older sister on Thursday re: mom and her AD. (Sis is coming in Monday night and will go back home Saturday.) I wished you had a pulling your hair out smiley to use (LOL) because I do beleive Sis is not going to accomplish a thing. She does NOT want outside intervention (a visiting home worker) because she believes mom would be declared a ward of the state then. Sis believes in the short time she'll be here, she'll be able to get mom to the scheduled Dr appt, get her back on meds and everything will be just fine. I asked her..."What happens when you go back home then?" Like I mentioned earlier, this sister only comes to visit twice a year for 6 days at a crack. She will not stay longer than that because her coping skills are fried by weeks end. (Not only is she a diabetic, she also takes paxil for depression.)
I discussed all this with my husband, who is quite involved with my mothers care and I've come to the conclusion that after sis is finished doing what she believes will work, I'll have to do what is right! I know my mother...she'll put on the "good" front and eat those pills until nobody is around for the immediate attention that week.
Another problem I have is the house cleaner I hired to just clean her house. Without my knowledge, this woman has been loading my mother up in her vehicle after cleaning and taking her bumming! Does this woman not understand the liability and respsonsibility of doing this? I e-mailed this woman and told her this is to stop immediately. Now, my mother is not speaking to me, nor will let me into her house! I only hired this woman to clean, nothing else!
No matter how well my husband and I work at getting my mother back on track, with a stable schedule that she can adhere to, someone comes along and sets everything back. Now...do I fire the housecleaner or let her stay and still have mom con her into a road trip? This woman knows mom has AD and I also brought it to her attention she is off her meds. I'm tired off everyone telling me my mother is "just fine," including my sisters! The Dr and tests revealed AD, why is it they cannot understand mom is NOT alright? This is why my sister wants to take mom to her Tuesday appt....to find out first hand what the health statis is on mom. (Like I would lie?) I think mom has worked her "behind the scenes" magic on these people, trying to make them believe "I'm" the one with the problem, not her. She has always been a master at manipulation.
I reminded my sister of her last visit...how mom did those quirky things like saving in a huge jar all the used poutry timers, how she would not let her cook a thing in her home, teliing sis when she had to go to bed, when it rained...mom shut everything off in the house and handed my sister a flashlight, seeing things in the yard that are not there, saving every piece of junk mail which now a 8 drawer dresser is full to the max of, etc. My sister laughed and said she just thought it was comical....what old people must do. (I don't think so)
No, the other siblings will not involve themselves. Afraid that they might end up with mom and be totally responsible for her like I am. All the younger sister is interested in is what she'll get after mom is gone! She's already tried to get mom to give her $25,000 which I put a stop to.
I am self employed and leave for work at 6am, return home at 3pm. Administering meds to mom is not an option. Mom keeps screaming at me that "I can have a life after she's dead." No...I need my own life now, and I will not let her fall through the cracks and falsey believe what my sister thinks will work, will. Yes, I do hope the Dr can give my sister a reality check and discuss the much needed options with her to deal with the situation I face. My sister will not visit again until late June or July of next year now.
Thanks for all the links on AD too. I've been reading them to learn more and more. I guess it all boils down to....what intervention I can receive from the Dr and this sister for the help needed.