I really appreciate your support. I thought that things were going pretty well. She is about
1.5 hours away from where I live, so I only get to visit three times a week. I take her out to lunch and we go shopping and have really nice times. The more I see her, I realize that things are not always as they seem. She can get angry easily and she does have some incontinent issues which she denies, along with her confusion. The state has decided that they will now not pay for the nursing home. Mom is just so upset. The director called her into his office and gave her this news with my brother on the phone. I am really annoyed that the home did not have a family member present for her. She has a 30 day appeal. I have lyme disease and my doctor advised me not to bring her home with me. When I saw her on Sunday, she had her things all packed. She forgot about
the appeal and was very upset about
leaving the home. She has made good friends and she wants to stay. I saw her again on Monday and she was somewhat better. I have also been advised, since we have this appeal, to not take her on outings until this is resolved. So, I stop and bring it lunch for her and her friend. I am still on the fence about
bringing her home with me. I can not afford to pay for the nursing home. The state wants her in assisted living, which my brother says he can afford to pay. I am fearful that her being moved will make her get worse. We travel alot, DH for work and I go with him. I wonder if I could take her as well???? So many questions and I do not know what I should do.