Hello. I usually post under fibro and lupus but I came here to ask for advice. My grandfather lives alone, and has alzheimers/dementia. He takes a medication, but I cant think of the name right now. He manages to get through his day. His neighbor brings him breakfast, he gets Meals on wheels at lunchtime. He hardly eats any of that food. I also stock his fridge and cupboards and that too rarely gets eaten. He Never bathes. He is starting to wet his pants on a regular basis. He quit shaving. He is confused about everything. Basically, he has been "on the fence", not quite bad enough to go into a nursing home but not quite good enough to live alone. I am trying to do as much as I can for him (I am the only relative he has in this area, so I have no help with this). I shop for him, take him to appointments, do his laundry, pay his bills(I am his POA), etc. But I cannot be there everyday bec
ause I am a stay at home mom with small children. I cannot take them to his house because it is in such bad shape. So I raised the question to my husband about whether he would be willing to have him live with us so I can do more for him. I could make sure he is eating better, bathing, etc. And I would be able to handle his laundry, medications, etc much easier if it was here at my home. My husband loves him and wants the best for him, but he is also concerned with bringing him into our home because of our small children. He is afraid that my grandfather may do things, say things, etc that would be bad for our kids to be around. I will be honest, I have no idea how things go with Alzheimers. I dont know what to expect and I guess I need to find some information. But my big question is...... is it a good idea to move him into my home and family. or would he be better off (or would my family be better off) if he was forced to move into a nursing home or assisted living.
BTW, he refuses to go to assisted living, etc so I would have to "force" him, which I dont want to do. Thanks for any help and opinions!!