My nana is not doing well at all. The NH has family meetings every other Wednesday so my mom attended again today. My papa finally realized she wont be going home and that she will be gone soon. Hospice started today they are keeping her in the same room as before even though they also have a separate hospice building there. She stopped taking pills orally whether she is rejecting them or cannot really swallow well we're not sure. They are giving her Adivan and morphine IV at this point the adivan wont hurt anything. When I talked to my mom yesterday she held the phone to my nan and I told her I love her and that eric (my husband) loves her too. She was responding but so low I couldnt understand but my mom reiterated it to me. Tonight I called and some more of my family was there visiting(one of which has her Phd in nursing and teaches at a local university). She was restless even with the adivan and morphine I am unsure if they had recently given it and it was not working/taken effect yet or if she was due for another dose.
Since my papa realized he will be alone in that house (he said this to my folks not to myslef and eric) about us moving in with him. That just isnt good for anyone, he needs to grieve and eric and I havent even been married 2 years yet, this last year being crap due to my crohns disease...it started flaring 1 year ago exactly after being in remission for a year. He and I want children, yes it would be nice to not have to pay rent but he is the type of man who likes to putt around the house fixing this that and the other, he would potentially be into our personal life a little more than we would like. I am sure he is welcome at my folks house anytime for a meal...granted he was the one that cooked it wasnt my nana that did the cooking. I mentioned to my folks maybe a pet would be a good idea for him, since I work for a veterinarian I can adopt a shelter pet for $0 and if I say the animal is mine all things are at cost as far as vaccines etc, surgries are free, meds are discounted...they would just have to think it was my pet so I could get the discount. Maybe not right away but he has been caring for her for many years now with her failing health. I think he is going to find lots of extra time in the end and may need to fill that void. He will be 80 in December and as far as health he is okay but many yrs ago we feared he was getting AD, he has trouble understanding things and does forget some stuff but that can be common as well, especially when in denial.
Thank you all for your thoughts wel wishes and prayers
Dx with Crohn's 1987, symptoms as early as 1984.
Temp iliostomy February 2007, reversed June 2007, Ovarian cysts, migraines, allergies (incl food allergies) , oral allergy syndrome (diff than true food allergies), Asthma, Gall Bladder removed 1999, Inguenal hernia 1987