my momma

 i tried to write on my other post but it wouldn't let me. i'm just checking in to tell yaw we had Thanksgiving Dinner last night at the nursing home. momma loved it. she had a wonderful time. it was so wonderful almost like she was her old self. she even used her fork threw the whole meal. i'm so proud. thanks for listening. sorry i had to make another topic.

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Hi hun the thread was getting to long and so it was locked I should have strarted a new one but have been out with a headache and stuff for couple of days ......no need to be sorry bout starting new topic ....
We had our Thanksgiving here already in Canada and it was really nice great food .....and family sure missed Mom

I am so glad you had a great dinner and mom was able to eat with you .........thats another great memory you will be keeping my friend ........

I do hope the rest of your TG goes so well for you and my prayers are with you always

Give some gentle huggs all around plz
Luvs
LYN

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well i had to grip again at the nursing home yesterday. i know they must hate me. but i am not going to let them treat momma any old way. at lunch they didn't give her plate to her till last. it was fish day. she didn't get any fish. i understand that she gets her plate last cause she has to be fed. i was there i was going to feed her. well they sent out these burnt pop corn shrimp, hard biscuit, baked potatoe, letuce, choclate brownie and milk. that's all. everybody else had fish and tea also and pie. momma got scrapes. oh they got shrimp to. so momma tried to eat her biscuit, and potatoe. i took the rest to the head lady and gripped. asked her if she'd aet that crap. she took it to the kitchen but never brought nothing else back. they're having a meeting the 6th up there, i'm going and grip again. it's not fair just because momma eats last she should get left overs. i want have it. thanks for listening.

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Tiny
I would be yelling the home down 'NO it is not right
We always fd the feeders first as they had to be done at a certain time for toiletting and all

Leftovers and scrapings are not acceptable .....not at all in my opinion ...you have me on yer shoulder sweetie ...........Keep at them .........
Let me know how it goes plz
Luvs Lyn

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Hello Tiny,

Tomorrow is the 6th.  I hope you go to the meeting and stay assertive and advocate for your Mom.  No one should be fed any kind of food that is inedible.

Your Mother is so lucky to have you to speak for her.  So many are not that lucky.  I will be  here supporting you tomorrow in your quest for decent food.

You go girl.

Kitt

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Hey sweetie How did it all work out

Am thinking bout you n Momma always..........

Plz let me know

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hi yaw, thank you for caring lyn and kitt. well i went to the meeting and they said that the food thing would be took care of. they fixed her walker because she lost hers and was using one that made her bend over to much. she also just lost her glasses so they're getting her some new ones. i was nervious in there. but said what i needed to say. and it went real good. better than i thought. i had wanted my sister to go with me. but she couldn't because she had to go to the doctor. i have bipolar and anxity. so you know i was a little nervious lol. but everything went great. thanks again for listening.

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tiny

I am so proud of you going in and doing what you had to do even with the anxiety and bipolar disorders......YOU are a great daughter .........

Am also very happy that it all got straightened out
Make sure they do keep there words hun........
Gentle huggs to you and your Momma

Luvs
LYN

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i just wanted to give an update on momma. she's been at herself a good bit lately. my brother is coming for Christmas so i'm hoping she'll know him. i hope all of yaw have a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

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tiny

I am so happy for you sweetie ............

Merry Chrtistmas and a better New Year ......

Luvs
LYN

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well my brother came for Christmas. momma knew him some, then she didn't. i guess that's how it is. i haven't had to grip much. yesterday i had to remind them to take her to the potty. she was soked when i popped in at lunch time. i take her when i'm there. but they're suppose to every 2 hours. i pop in at different times. that way they can't be on gaurd for me lol. well she had a bad day yesterday to. very confused. i left sad. thanks for listening.

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tiny

Thanks for letting me klnow how things are going hun

I am so sorry she had a bad day yesterday
My dad did as well ......
I am thinking and praying for you and your sweet Momma all the time

Luvs
LYN

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lyn, sorry about your Dad having a bad day. well, i missed going to see momma yesterday. i went this morning. she has a bruise above her eye and her cheek is swollen. nobody seems to know what happen. she couldn't have got up by herself. anyways waiting on exrays to make sure all is fine. i'm going to find out what shift this happen on. they just didn't write it down. or call me or my sister. thanks for listening.

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WHEN she is in a HOME it is to be documented as soon as the fall happens ( or Incident)
I would go directly to the head Nurse and if no answers there there are only so many nurses on shift
I would want ANSWERS if it were my dad believe me and I would get them
Please give her a gentle hugg for me will ya

well, i asked everybody i could. nobobody seems to know anything. the bruise is about gone and the swelling is gone. i'm waiting for exrays. i'm sure there fine. i guess i'll never know how she fell. if this and hopefully it will never happen again, happens i'm going to raise more sand. it's a real nice nursing home. i don't understand. thank you for being here for me lyn.

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I just love a MYSTERY ..
oh I get so defensive and angry too at ppl when they say " jeez I dont know how that could have happened?".....someone HAD to have known and my educated guess would be that someone knows that they are in the wrong and at fault for what happened to your Momma ...Let this one go but make SURE you document any and all falls plz .The nursing homes hun can look the greatest and be beautiful and all BUT it is the quality of Care we have to look for when placing our loved ones in there ya know
Keep me posted k and let me know how you are doing I do worry bout ya
gentle huggs for Momma
Luvs
LYN

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hi lyn, well my momma fell again. it wasn't bad. she was trying to use the bathroom in in wastebasket and sat down off it. i think that happens cause back in the old days they didn't have bathrooms. she's ok though. still can't keep up with her glasses. she has 2 pairs. can only find 1. i ask about them every day. i know they get tired of hearing about them. i don't care. they cost money. hope your doing fine lyn. thank you.

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tiny

They should know where the glasses are
It is beyond me how they can be so reckless with others belongings
DO they forget they are being paid to look after her ....
keep your chin up sweetie '

YOU have come along way on this bleeding road .........No surrender.....
Luvs
LYN

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i just wanted to let yaw know that my momma is fine. well she has good days and bad ones. seems like she's been having alot of good ones. oh, she still can't eat byherself and stuff like that. but she seems happy. she's in the last stages i guess. but i always ask her before i leave, momma what's my name? she always says elaine, i could never forget you. then i leave and cry. cause one day she may forget our little game. i know she doesn't know me all the time. but she remembers that little game i play with her about my name. thanks for listening.

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tiny

Tiny
I am always here to listen as are so many others
Keep posting and get the pain out sweetie
Love ya
LYN

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well, that day came when she no longer remembers our game. today she couldn't even remember who i was. i think she knew i was someone that loved her. but that's all. i stayed 3 hours. fed her breakfast. when i got there they were letting her do it. and she couldn't. her eggs were cold. i told them to bring her some more and they should eat that. i've been sad since i left the home. crying. i hate this disease. i'll be strong and keep loving momma of course. but my heart breaks. she is so sweet and innocent. i love her so much. i guess i'll deal with this not knowing my name somehow. i've known for awhile now that she slips in and out of knowing me. but she always got my name right. thanks for listening.

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it's morning now. i still feal sad. i tried to talk to hubby about it. he said i should be happy and glad that she's not suffering. and that she's still alive. i am glad and happy she's still alive. i just hate this disease. i've watched my momma disappear. he hasn't. i've watched the confusion on her face so many times about simple things. yes, she's alive and seems to be happy. so why do i leave that nursing home so sad? i can't be happy she has this disease. sorry i'm ranting. hubby just doesn't understand i guess. maybe i'm grieving i don't know. i pray at night sometimes that momma isen't scared. you know how young kids get scared. i don't want her to be scared or cry. hubby says all this is part of life you live then you die. he's not much help is he? i'm going to see momma again this morning. thanks for listening.

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well, the food thing with momma was worse than i thought. my sister called and told me this morning that nobody was feading her at lunch yesterday ethier. and it was sitting in front of her cold. so this morning i showed up there and the same thing was happening. except momma was eating her oatmeal, but not very good. i took that plate to the head man. and asked him if he'd eat it. the bread was so hard you could have broke a window. when i asked the nurse the day before for another egg, she said no the kitchen was closed. so they just heated the one she had up and gave her a fresh biscuit. i told that man all this. my momma is a diabitic. she has to eat. the day before that nurse told me she isn't losing any wieght is she? i was so mad this morning. that man said he was going to watch the next couple of days and make sure she gets fed. she better. i'll be back lol. thanks for listening.

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oh i forgot. momma knew my name today.

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THAT is so great I am so happy for you and for her as well
it sure makes the heart swell doesnt it

Luvs
LYN

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