Too tell or not too tell

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   Posted 2/8/2008 8:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi everybody, do I tell any1 bout my anxiety disorder. My sis and my ex were the first ppl I told and it was really big thing telling my parents. I recently moved 50miles bck to my home town wher no-one knos bout this anxiety and i dnt think i wana tel them but im not sur as somtimes i feel i cud use ther support. I havn't told any of my old friends n i kno they wont undastand so it doesn't seem much point. The big ones for me rite now is when or do I tel the new girl im dating and I havn't told any1 at my new work. I think im gona try not tel any1 for aslong as poss even th i kno tht prob not the healthiest thing todo. Soz for pointless thread I jus sorta needed to get this off my chest lol  tongue   
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   Posted 2/8/2008 9:36 AM (GMT -6)   

IMHO if you have a new friend that is in your life regularly you should tell her.

As for the people you work with, if it does not interfere with your work, you don't have to go around telling people.  It may make you feel uncomfortable as well as them. I would say tell anyone you feel comfortable with sharing your health issues and keep it simple.

Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.

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   Posted 2/8/2008 12:24 PM (GMT -6)   
hi badfish,
i think you should tell your new girl about it if you want her to understand you ,at work unless needed you dont have to.keep posting.
c ya
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   Posted 2/8/2008 7:55 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi badfish,

I think the best thing would be to tell people on a need to know basis.  If they are important to you in your life let them know, otherwise don't bother.  I think your new girl would respect you for telling her (and might be in a position to help you sometimes).  It might be better than making excuses when you feel anxious, she might thinks it's her and get upset..

Goodluck with it all, and let us know how you get along

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   Posted 2/8/2008 11:24 PM (GMT -6)   
hELLO! I feel that you should tell her,If a problem comes up when you two are together she will be ableto understand some what.

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   Posted 2/9/2008 9:33 AM (GMT -6)   
I am very particular about people I tell because they label you as hysterical or whatever. My immediate fam only knows, and my meds are my biz. I share with very close friends who I trust. You can always test the waters by asking "have you ever had a panic attack?" and see the answer.
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   Posted 2/9/2008 12:36 PM (GMT -6)   
HI badfish i totally agree with kitt! From my own experience any one who is of any relevance in my life i tell them about my P/A disorder,but if it is someone i dont have to deal with on a regular basis and dont have any kind of relationship with i dont feel like it's any of their business.Like Kitt also said IF it interferes with my work i will tell my supervisor or whom ever is in charge.I usually dont tell my co-workers unless it is someone i totally feel comfortable with!! It took me a while to tell my immediate family but when they started questioning my reasoning about not comeing out of town to see them i had no other choice because i didnt want them to think it was nothing personal against them!! I use to be embarrassed to tell anyone that i had P/A but then i realized i didn't have anything to be embarrassed about!! Because i didnt choose to be this way and i know i'm not crazy like some people seem to think about people with mental ilnesses, so now i dont mind telling significant people in my life.But if you really like this girl and you care about how she percieves you then i would tell her but if you dont think ya'll are serious enough to where you would consider this to be a long term relationship then i wouldn't!

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   Posted 2/11/2008 8:42 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey thnx for advice, I think im gona do wht Panike suggests and just tell ppl only if i need to.
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