New Job..Hubby and I sick and my Anxiety is back ....PLUS..........Advice please.....

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   Posted 3/17/2008 7:47 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello everyone! It's been a long time since i've been here to chat with you guys! I really miss everyone here! The reason that i haven't been on in so long is because one,i have a new job i've been working for about 3 weeks now and two is because i've been trying to get use to my hours 11:30Am-7:30PM.I like the job but dont care for the hours.Those hours don't go well with the hours my spouse work and we don't hardly get to see each other anymore.I am off every weekend and he is off every other weekend.Anyway,lately i have been so darn depressed and having alot more anxiety! I really don't know why but i figured it was time to come back to HW and talk to my friends! The depression started the second week i started my new job.That particular week my husband caught a terrible stomache virus.He was vomiting,naseaus,feverish and had chills,he was so bad one of the days he was sick i stayed home with him.Then the next day when i went back to work,it hit me! I had the same symtoms he was having and had to leave work early.the next day i didn't go in but i did go to the DR.and had a DR.'s note when i went back to work especially since it was only my second week.Those of you that know the bad luck i've had with jobs know how discouraging it was to me to already have to miss days and i had just started the job.Of course i was worried about getting fired but everything turned out ok! Anyway every since that week i have been feeling terrible, even though were both over the virus and i haven't had to miss anymore days.I just don't know what has me so down! Lately i've been thinking about my life and some of the problems my husband and i have been having and trying to catch up on bills that i was behind on from being out of work.Sometimes i feel like i'm not happy with my husband anymore and i feel like my marriage adds to alot of my anxiety.Then i've been thinking about how my P/A keeps me from traveling so i haven't seen some of my close relatives that live out of the city in a long time.Also my mom and i use to be close and we could talk about everything but within the past year and a half she met a guy and things kicked it off with them really well and she has been spending alot of time with him.Plus she has been working and going to school.They recently got engaged and moved into a new place together so everytime i call her to talk she is either at school,at work or spending time with him.Lately i have been feeling so alone! I feel like everyone has left me including my husband.He's always at work when i'm at home and when he's at home i'm at work and i just feel so alone.Can someone please give me some advice?
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Post Edited By Moderator (Howlyncat) : 3/18/2008 6:25:47 AM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 3/17/2008 7:55 PM (GMT -6)   

Panicke! welcome back sweetie, I missed you and congrats on the job.  No wonder you are feeling added anxiety and depression..a new job is an awful lot to have on your plate, add a sick hubbie and family troubles and well, I'm amazed at how strong you are being. 

Have you considered talking to someone outside of the family about how alone you feel? It's such a horrible really need full support right now, not loneliness.  I'm sure the others at HW will have some great advice for you..keep your wonderful chin up...congratulate yourself and know that we are all here for you


I alone can do this, but I cannot do it alone. 

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   Posted 3/18/2008 7:32 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry for all you are going thru
I am proud of you about the job........
Perhaps this thinking of all of what yu and hubby has gone thru and your not feeling the same with him needs to be addressed as Megs said by a professional
IMHO it might be all the anxiety and sickness as well as YOU worrying about the bills that is causing all the more anxiety ya know
IF you have fallen out of love with hubby you need to be honest and let him know
I heard a great quote
There is nothing worse than being in an unhappy relationship for one day than being in it for 2 days .....
I do wish that this wont happen and I am sure you will really think things thru BUT if you are not happy then you have got to find out why and do whatever it takes to make you happy again ya know
Have missed you and I so understand those hours when working I did all night shifts for 5 yrs at a hospital ........BUT I was the head nurse and I didnt mind them hours too much ........

KEEP us posted we do worry bout you ....YOU are family here ya know .........Luvs......LYN.

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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 3/18/2008 4:23:05 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 3/18/2008 10:51 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey Panike
Hi there friend, I have missed you.  I am so sorry you are in a bad way right now.
I feel like you have a lot going on that may be causing the depression to kick in.  Is this the job with the bridge you have to cross?
I see you have worries about finances, your hours are not really suitable to your home routine, you have been ill and also you are having some thoughts about your marriage.
Refresh my memory, are you seeing a therapist?
Can you try  to take it one day at a time. Instead of worrying about how you will get through the rest of the week or coming month, try to focus on today. Each day can provide us with different opportunities to learn new things and that includes learning how to deal with your problems. Focus on the present and stop trying to predict what may happen next week. Next week will take care of itself.
Remember we are here for you so please post to us anytime as we are open 24/7.  Take care Panike.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety ~ Panic  ~ Crohn's
Not a mental health professional of any kind
It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~

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