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Date Joined Apr 2008
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   Posted 4/2/2008 10:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi All, this is my first post to write and you can't believe what a relief it was to locate this site (well maybe you can).  I have read post, after post and can honestly say that although I don't know any of you, I don't feel so alone anymore.
I too, experience the chest pain, shortness of breath, out-of-body experience, thoughts of dying, etc... What's bizarre is, I am a 36 year old female, who has just recently been diagnosed with anxiety. So that leads me to my first question: how does this just creep up on you??
Here's my background (short story): about 6 months after I had my last cigarette, is when I realized I had anxiety issues. There was a point where I couldn't even fall asleep at night, because I thought I was having a heart attack or because I thought I felt my heart stop, etc... The stress of the situation pushed me off the wagon and I started smoking again.  During the day, I am totally okay - rarley experiencing any form of anxiety (of course having a high-stress job might explain this); however at night when I'm lying in bed - that's when it ALWAYS hits. Of course, since I started smoking again, now all I can think about is dying of lung cancer, heart disease, etc...
My second (and last) question is: does anyone expeience the situation above? Okay during the day, freaking out at night??  I guess I just assumed that anxiety hits at all hours of the day and not just at one specific time of day.
Does anyone else smoke?  This seems to take the edge off - does anyone else feel the same way??  Has anyone been able to quit moking successfully and still maintain some sense of sanity?  If so, how did you do it?
I apologize for all the questions. Thank you so much for any feedback you can provide.  I wish all of you much luck and success in your "healing".

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Date Joined Mar 2008
Total Posts : 55
   Posted 4/2/2008 11:56 PM (GMT -6)   
I can relate. My anxiety hits the worse in the morning when I first wake up. Once I get my meds in me I calm down and feel better. I strongly recommend seeing a doctor, a therapist can help a great deal! All of your symptoms sound like panic. I also smoke and my doctor told me that while we work with the anxiety and panic to continue smoking, that will be the next hurdle. Take one thing at a time and one day at a time. Mine hit me so fast and so unexpectidly that I have been out of work for 3 weeks and am on short term disability. Hopefully I can get back to work next week because I think all of the free time I have doesn't help. Just know you are not alone. we are a great community here to help and it's a great help knowing you are not the only one with these feelings. I got so bad that I wasn't eating and lost over 10 pounds in two weeks! With the therapy and support of others things will get better. Welcome and please stay with us. I have a great book recommendation which I was about to post until I read about you and was sidetracked by this response. The book is Don't Panic by Dr. Reid Wilson. It is awesome, check it out. It should be available at Barns and Noble or Borders rather than waiting for delivery if you order it.
Best wishes and know that we are all always here!

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Date Joined Jul 2006
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   Posted 4/3/2008 1:27 AM (GMT -6)   
First of all a very warm welcome to you, I really hope that we can help you out here at our HW family and I am touched that you posted your story.
How does this creep up on us? Well it can start all by itself, but any major lifestyle choice (like giving up smoking) can certainly trigger it.  No-one (In my opinion) know exactly why anxiety disorder happens, but a high stress lifestyle, family pre-disposition, trauma or physical change can all be factors.  (sorry hope I don't sound like a textbook there)..
I can get anxiety at any time of the day (especially morning deedah!) and at night, well it's quiet and we have more time to churn things over in our heads and WORRY..perfectly natural..and annoying.
I find that reading before bed, or listening to a meditation tape helps clear my brain a bit..but I still get "the worries" at night..grrrr..
I don't smoke, but I know it's really hard to give up and is a stimulant...I'm sure someone else on ths site will know more so I will leave it to them! Have you started any treatment for your anxiety (ie medication, counselling?)
Thanks once agin for posting, welcome! Keep those questions coming and we will answer as best we can xx

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Date Joined Jan 2005
Total Posts : 24909
   Posted 4/3/2008 5:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to our lil family here at HW
I know you will come to see the caring and support all have here for one another
I am so sorry for what you are going thru
I agree maybe some couselling would help.......TOO

PLZ stay with us and keep are never alone anymore

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Date Joined Aug 2007
Total Posts : 1193
   Posted 4/3/2008 7:33 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to the Healing Well family, I am very happy for you that you found us.  This is a great source of help and support as well as finding resources in which to help you.  In the yellow box to the right is a list of resources that you may want to check out.  We are a family here and care about each other - we support each other however possible - giving a shoulder for someone to cry on, lending that listening ear, give advice (non-medical of course), etc.

Now that you have found us, you most definitely won't be alone.  Many of us here suffer with the same symptoms/problems that you do and can understand and relate to them.  Anxiety can strike at any time of the day or night.  I think that night tends to be the worst because it's usually it's quiet, we are winding down from the day and have more time to think/worry about things which can cause our anxiety to kick up a notch or two or get us into a full blown panic attack.  Night time is usually worse for me.

I used to smoke but gave it up when I got pregnant with my second son.  I stopped smoking the first time when I was pregnant with my first son, but then started again a few months after I had him.  The second time I quit was when I was pregnant the 2nd time - this time I was able to give it for good.  He is now almost 16, so it's been a long time since I've had a cigarette.  Being pregnant was a great motivator for me to stop and I just never had the desire to start again after he was born.  Not really sure why, but I'm not gonig to argue with it - LOL - I like being smoke free.  Quitting is not an easy thing to do and you will quit when you are truly ready to do so.

Have you talked with your doctor about possibly trying a medication for the anxiety?  It may help you.  There are many good ones available, but you and your doctor will be the best ones to decide if this is a good option for you.  Should you decide to talk to your doctor about this, make sure to ask lots of questions i.e. what are the side effects, how often to take them, how quickly does it work, etc.  You need to get as much info as possible so that you can make the best possible decision.  Because ultimately the final decision of whether or not you will take anything is your choice entirely.  It's just a thought for you to consider.

Please don't apologize for the questions, that's how we are able to help you is by knowing what you are questioning and possibly need help with.  Ask all the questions you'd like to, that's what we are here for - to support and help.
Please keep posting so that we can get to know you better and again, welcome to the wonderful Healing Well family.
Take care,

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Regular Member

Date Joined Feb 2008
Total Posts : 378
   Posted 4/3/2008 10:26 AM (GMT -6)   

I smoked for 20 years, until I quit in 2004, because I developed asthma. I could of kicked myself for letting it get to that point.  I was hospitalized and the dr said, QUIT now or dont see your children's children.  That was enough for me.  I used the commit lozenges for 2 mos and havent smoked since.

The smoking, I thought, helped with the anxiety, but actually it made it ten times as bad. I found that out after I quit.  Quitting is very important if you suffer from anxiety.  Hope you find the right method.  You will definitely feel better tongue

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Elite Member

Date Joined Apr 2007
Total Posts : 32602
   Posted 4/3/2008 10:46 AM (GMT -6)   


Welcome to HealingWell and the A & P Forum.  We are all so pleased you found our site and you willl find any caring and supportive members.

Along with the health benefits that take place in your body, there are also several psychological benefits that occur from you quitting the habit of smoking. At first, several experience withdrawal symptoms, causing a craving for nicotine. However, if you can move past this, then there are benefits that will occur for you mentally. Feelings of freedom are one of the psychological benefits to stop smoking. A lowering of anxiety will also begin to occur. Many say that changes in their environment will occur, as well as a boost in self-esteem. Because of the addicting nature of cigarettes, it often causes one to feel powerless, lowering the self-esteem. When one quits smoking, there is a boost in power and control over their lives.
Please work with your PCP as some people will do well on the patches and others may need a antianxiety med for a short time until their body adjusts.

I am so proud of you for making this choice..........what a great example you are for others.

Again welcome



Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety ~ Panic  ~ Crohn's
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It is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~

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