revenge of the panic attack!

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   Posted 4/24/2008 11:34 AM (GMT -6)   
  I am dealing with the revenge of my panic attacks.  I was doing pretty good over the last couple weeks
untill yesterday, I was having tummy troubles and heart palps. I kinda just tried to put it out of my mind because
I knew it was getting close to that time of the month(if you know what I mean) And I had not slept weel the last 2 nights
Plus I have been a bit stressed out the last couple days. So I thought after I got some sleep I would be fine.
But NO! I woke up alittle over an hour later in a panic attack. I was sweating and so hot with those heat waves and racing heart.
I got calmed down and thought I would be okay just get some sleep!  Nope an hour after that it happened again! I turned up the air condetioner, turned on the fan and got a wet cloth to make sure I wouldnt get to hot and fell back asleep.
about a half hour later it happened again and I was rather upset, this time I decided I would just stay up all night so this would stop and sleep in the morning. I did fall back asleep but that was thankfully the last of the attacks.
How ever this morning I still feel very tense and not "right". I am alittle afraid it might happen again. Panic attacks are so scary!
I have not had a bad full blown night of attacks in a long time so I didnt have anything med wise to take for the atacks.
If this keeps up, I will have to go back on xanax for the attacks. 
I think all of this may have been triggered because my hubby ( my rock ) went out of town on sunday and has been gone all week, So I have been taking care of the kids all alone with no real adult contact since he left and no one to help out with the kids either. I am very use to him coming home and helping out some with the kids but this week it has just been all me.
Plus he helps when I have an attack and gets me water and cold cloth but I had no one to help me, I was very very scary for me.
When you are in a full attack, what helps you calm down? I need a few ideas.  I have different kinds of attacks some I feel like I am going to pass out and die and other I feel like I am losing my mind and all is lost, other i just freak!
LOL Sorry this got so long.
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   Posted 4/24/2008 11:48 AM (GMT -6)   
heyyyy, sorry u had to go through that, its not the best of things, what i do when i feel it starting is i light sum insense, start singing, deep breathing, occupy myself to take my mind off of it. I also tell myself that its all fake, nuthings gonna happen to me.......
I'll read the bible or the book 'The Secret'. Hope this helps!! And i hope u feel rooting 4 u!!lool
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   Posted 4/24/2008 2:11 PM (GMT -6)   


Hello and I am sorry your going through  these panic attacks.........a few helpful hints for you: Let your feelings come. . Don't run away from panic. When you feel panic build up, take a deep breath and as you breathe out, let go. Keep trying. Stay there almost as if you were floating in space. Don't fight the feeling of panic. Accept it; you can deal with it.
Think about what is really happening to your body at this moment. Do not think "Something terrible is going to happen. I must get out." Repeat to yourself "I am ok, I will not die or lose control."

It is ok to feel upset and if you feel like tears then let them out, some of the panic with leave with the tears.

Remember your hubby will be home soon. We are all here to support you and help you through the panic.


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   Posted 4/24/2008 4:43 PM (GMT -6)   
I agree with kitt about the crying. Sometimes just letting it all out through tears can help. Also, my therapist taught me diaphragmatic breathing. It really helps. You want to inhale and exhale through your nose rather than your mouth. They should be normal sized breaths. Pause before you inhale and exhale by saying the work relax to yourself. Pace yourself.. "Inhale-2-3-relax(pause)-Exhale-2-3-relax(pause). When doing this exercise you want to make sure your diaphragm is moving up and down, not your chest. Your diaphragm is about an inch above your belly button. So if you put one hand there and one on your chest, you will see the lower hand move up and down, and the hand on your chest should not move.
Hope this helps and your anxiety gets better. Your "rock" will be back before you know it and we are always here for you too!

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   Posted 4/24/2008 6:51 PM (GMT -6)   
humm... I never really thought about crying my stress away. I tend to sob over movies and such but I never really cry when I am having a panic attack, I tend to try to bottle it just to make it stop. I try my best not to go thru it instead of living thru it. I have tried to breath during the attacks however it always feels like I cant get my breathing right. I also think I try my best to seem strong and in control because im afraid it might upset my kids to see me upset. I think I might just try to cry out a panic attack and see if it helps any.

Thanks for the ideas and support, I am sure i'll get thru it all even it take a ton of posts on here, LOL
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   Posted 4/24/2008 10:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Crying..I get you..I can never cry when I panic..It's just too much you know? It's just enough to breath and cope and LIVE when it happens..I really hope that things get a little bit better for you soon.  We love you being here and you have so much to share and contribute...please keep us up to date and keep sharing :-)
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   Posted 4/24/2008 11:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi crying,

It's great that you have a supportive husband, but as you can see, he cannot always be here for you. Do you have any other supports that you can call upon? I know that it would be very scary for me not having support! I have had at least 4 separate anxiety attacks and on each one, I had someone that I can call upon during my hour of need. I believe the forum is a wonderful way to connect people. Unfortunately we are living in an age where people are becoming more and more disconnected from each other. Next door neighbours don't even know each other! I read an article today that said that people who were in deep relationships with each other in community lived much longer than those who lived in relatively private lives. I believe this is the trend that is happening. There are many people crying out for help, but there is nobody that they can turn to. The online community has been great to provide this to a certain extent, but this is my own opinion. We need to connect with people in our own community somehow, be it through church, community organizations, groups for single parents, etc. Today, I went to my own church for the first time since my anxiety attack in China. I went to one of my old good friends who suffers from anxiety as I do and I told her about it. She asked me if I was taking meds again, and I said yes, and she just simply gave me a hug. That meant sooo much to me. We as humans are meant to connect at a physical level too. The therapeutic benefit of a physical hug cannot be measured.

Please believe me, I am not putting down the online forum. I believe it is one great resource, but it shouldn't be the only one. I know though, for some, it is the only place people can get help and it's a start, but I believe it can't just be that either. The problems of anxiety of course complicates matters. Who do I talk to? Wow that would give me a panic attack, and I understand all of that, but I am glad that I am relating to people face to face and it is always greatly reduced my anxiety to a manageable level, sometimes even without meds!

I say this to encourage not discourage, but if it is too much, I understand, do what you can. We are here for you in cyberspace to help you as much as we can.

God Bless,


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   Posted 4/25/2008 3:20 AM (GMT -6)   
Poor you 'crying'..sounds like you are going thru a really rough patch...I hate the physical side to Panic Attacks - very scarey!
But as you know things will come right :-)
Wondering if you have meds to calm you when things get really bad..there are natural remedys which can help too..maybe good to investigate these options.
Other than that I find its really three things that get me through..
1. slow the breathing
2. distraction
3. change thinking pattern..instead of thinking of the 'bad side' of panic and how ghastly it is (yup) - remind yourself that it will pass - and you will be fine - try going somewhere in your mind that is safe..I tend to think of a park, nice trees, ice creams, sunshine...mmmm sound good to me
And Yes anxiety seems to peak with me closer to 'that' time of the month.
Hope things settle soon for you.
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   Posted 4/25/2008 10:11 AM (GMT -6)   
I am so sorry
You have been doing great hun and I know the ppl that have posted have given great input
I am alone with Cait but she is a teen and she also gets panic attacks........

It is hard when you are having the kids yourself and you have a biggie

I would really suggest breathing and the other techniques ppl have poosted.......

When the kids go to bed are you able to have a nice hot candlelit tubby and talk to hubby to help calm you

Going back on the meds DOES not make you a failure at plz know that

Keep us posted and if you need to talk email one of us okay dont let this get you down


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   Posted 4/25/2008 6:25 PM (GMT -6)   

How are you doing today? I hope the attack you were worried about yesterday didn't materialize. I'm sure taking care of your kids alone is putting some added stress or just hecticness into your life this week, and that nasty old anxiety just loves to take advantage!

What I do when I'm starting to have an attack is deep breathing first. During the day, I also try to distract myself, but usually I need to do that while hiding away from other people too. Also, if neither of those work, I've occasionally had luck with just getting angry at the attack (no, really), and telling it and myself, "I just DO NOT have TIME for this!" (Yes, yelling) That has worked a few times, mostly in the middle of the night when I'm already exhausted, and maybe it's not my first attack of the night or of the week. Obviously, it doesn't work every time, but I was amazed the few times it did. A footrub from my better half is always a good choice too, so I am glad you usually have your hubby around to give you that same kind of TLC.

Hang in there!


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   Posted 4/25/2008 8:01 PM (GMT -6)   
I am so glad you all are here! Last night was a pretty good night. My hubby got to come home a couple days early so he got in late last night! YIPPY!!!
Then an old friend of mine that I enjoy talking to texted me so my kids wouldnt be woken up by the phone ringing and asked me to cell em. So i did, I talked for awhile and was put in a very good mood, So i slept well. Also I had my hubby to cuddle and steal heat from, lol

However! Today has been alittle bit of a fight not to have an attack. I have had those small anxiety attacks with the heart pounding, weak, to hot oh crap what if i pass out! But it seemed to be only a 6 on a scale of 1-10. But I have had a few of those today. I am just praying that tonight will be okay with no attacks.

I really wanted to go off my meds a while back and I did talk to my doc about it and he said if I felt like it was worth a shot then we would cut the dose and wean off. Well after a 2 weeks with just weaning I relized that meds can be a good thing...a very good thing! So I am still on lexapro.
I use to also be on xanax for my bad attacks but I could only take it when someone else was here to watch my kids because it would make me soo sleepy! I no longer have any xanxa but I think I am going to make an appt with my doc and have another talk with him about my attacks lately.

I really hate to take meds except asprin, I didnt even take any of the pain meds my dentist gave me when I had my wisdom teeth taken out because I hate the way they make me feel. I took IBprofin.

I have noticed my stomach seems to hurt or feel like I ate a ton of grease everytime my anxiety kicks ok. Does this happen to any of you?
I have come to think either its the anxiety making my tummy hurt or either my stomach ach triggers my anxiety.

Do any of you ever have this happen?

BTW thank you all for the suggestions, It is truly just so nice to know ya'll are out there!
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   Posted 4/25/2008 11:20 PM (GMT -6)   
My tummy always gets bad when I have panic...peppermint tea seems to help it out, and sticking to things like soup is a good idea.  I'm so glad your hubby came home early Yeehaa for you..I hope things are calming down for you! Keep us poted, we always love to hear what's going on.
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