Good Morning. I think your what ifs fall into the realm of anticipatory anxiety .
Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :
Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.
Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying, constant worrying.
Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties
Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue
Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.
Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.
Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.
Stay in the moment, don't worry about yesterday, and tommorow will get here soon enough so stay in the moment of today and know you are ok. Some things we cannot control but anticipating a bad outcome and worrying increase your anxiety. I so agree with Maree, do something just for you. You are special and important so take care of your first.
Kitt, Moderator: Anxiety ~ Panic
Not a mental health professional of any kind
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