OKay now firstly you have got to get thru this Anticiaptory Anxiety
b) after surgery
c) being looked after by someone other than your mom as in the past..d) Mom being looked after by someone other than you is bothering you ,........understandable :cant be helped..I know that both have looked after each other and have a connection and YOUR way of doing things BUT give dad a biot of leadway here lol
I have just hit on a few things here hun as I see as the things that are perhaps bothering you the most right now
KNOW the surgery will help you in the long run
Know that you will be looked after properly by someone........not like your mom would but still............Your dad
Know your mom will also have someone capable of looking after her as well..her Hubby
IT sounds like IT IS about
time your siblings did do something to help out
I was in the same position for more than 10 yrs and just last month when Dad died they all just were interested in material things not him ya know
THAT is so wrong IMHO
When Mom was able she would be looking after me and vise versa
WE did both end up sick and out with pnuemonia yrs ago and Dad had to look after the 2 of us and he did extremely well
Give your dad a chance he might just surprise you
And so may your siblings.....although mine didnt do squat..........
Keep coming and letting your vents out thats what we are here for ya know that and to try to help you get hru this
I will keep you and your Mom and even your Dad in my heart thoughts and prayers
You and your mom for the surgeries and your dad for the aftermath of them ........
Take it a day at a time thats all you can do and push those what if's to the side and dont give them POWER over you ............
TAKE back your POWER and let all know you ,mom and dad will be just dandy in no time
Email me if ya want to talk k
At side unde name........LYN.
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Post Edited (Howlyncat) : 5/16/2008 10:46:08 AM (GMT-6)