Moodgym is awesome IMHO
I am glad you are giving it a shot
I like Kitt spent way too much time when kids were young ..alone and with the house spotless.my kids were making their own beds at early age and helping me with plastic dishes as well
I had always taught them to keep things clean BUT I am a severe OCD with cleanliness or I should say WAS
I have learnt the hard way that it is so much easier now for me to "say ah the dang few dishes could wait til morning" sometimes I can do it other times I cannot
My daughter is now developed real OCD habits just like mine and will not leave a dish in sink or anything left "looking" messsy" ya know
All my nic nacs and pics HAVE to be balanced ..my doc says this is beacuse I NEED the control inside my home as I do not have it out of it .......know what I mean??
Anyways back to you
DO not beat self up
Take baby steps
Try putting a lil note or a goal down to get something done for a certain day and make sure you stick to it ....check it off and on with the next
Even if it is to do laundry wash dry and fold .......put away at least you have accomplished it
And I believe you will feel better about
your self as well
Your kids rooms sounded like my Caits and I was constantly at her about
it lol........then hubby told me "she is a Teen lay off of her....next thing I know it is always cleaned before she lvs for school " whoulda thunk
WHILE you are trying to acheive the "goals" you set out have your kids join in
Make it a "Fun Thing" kinda.......assign them lil things to do and I know they may not do it your way but STILL give them the " thumbs up and way to go kiddo" and go back later IF you must and fix it your way lol.I did and Cait never caught on .at least I was never told she did
I would have a piece of bristol board and Cait would get stars or whatever for the things she did and extra for things she tried to do
Also she was then able to leave her room
open ( I cannot stand that either lol) and she actually had PRIDE in her eyes when she brought ppl in or my friends would remark about
her room being so nice
I would not suggesst you GO as far as I did though really roflmbo as like I said now Cait is OCD.....
She is a teen and for the past bit I have been very ill well my daughter has literally DONE everything around here PLUS cook and do the dishes...after spending her day at school.......Yes I am so proud of her and I do hope you can find a "FUN WAY " to get your kids involved with helping in their rooms and other things that need to be done
It is fun quality time IF you make if fun ( have a pillow case fight in the middle of it...DO NOT lose feathers lol).
When hubby is home have him do some things as well with the kids like if there are home repairs get hammers and play things or even real small tools for them whether they are girls or boys and have them help dad.........THEY will be proud I am sure......
I swear sometimes you never know what treaures you will find lol when going thru things so tell them you are going on a "Treasure hunt lol in their rooms " Talk to them about
things you find...perhaps things they made a couple of yrs ago and put it in a "Special" place
I know your house is not a "Pigsty" I am just trying to throw out some ideas to get the kids involved with you and helping you ..
This gives them the teaching of responsibily as well IMHO
Maybe I am just rambling I dont know?? But I do hope that SOMTEHING I have said will help out here
I also want to say you sound like a very good MOM who does have her hands full ...........
I am glad to see that you found us here and the CBT workshop /book is a great start as well ........
YOU have taken a couple of great steps so far sweetie
I KNOW you can take some more BABY steps
WE will be here to help and support you all we can.......STAY with us plz
Take care and have fun.....you really can.........LOL
DX With Crohns,Pyoderma Gangrenosum,Anxiety/Panic,Fibro & Other DD