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   Posted 6/13/2008 4:01 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi, I have been reading some of your threads and thought maybe I could join in.  I have been on the CP forum for quite some time but I am getting better with the physical pain issues and think it's time to pay attention to my mind.  I have been treated for depression, panic/anxiety disorders since 1986.  I have been on a variety of medications but my current combination seems to work pretty well: Cymbalta, Lamictal, Resperdal, Klonopin, and occassionally Trazadone. 
Most days I am okay but am always on edge.  I cannot stand loud noises and jerky movements.  A friend that has been staying here for a while during my recovery seems to think it is funny to slap his hands and point right in my face.  I jump out of my skin everytime.  If it happens too often, I take a Klonopin to just settle my nerves till he gets tired of it.  Another favorite is when I'm involved with reading, TV, computer, etc he will come up behind me and shout or make any other loud noise just to make me jump.  He left on vacation this am; it will take at least two days for my nerves to settle where I realize I am alone and enjoy my peace & quiet.  This, along with many other things, has led me to get rid of him shortly after his return.
Most of the time I feel like I can't relax because I'm afraid that if I do something major is going to happen (I haven't a clue as to what) and I won't be prepared.  If I don't know someone is coming to my house, I kringe when the doorbell rings.  I can't   stand the TV turned up loud.  I don't like a radio on in the car unless I am alone.  Basically I guess I kind of feel trapped within myself, if that makes any sense. 
Anyway, I just wanted to introduce myself and hopefully gain some insight into mine and others' perspectives.
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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   Posted 6/13/2008 5:05 PM (GMT -6)   
That friend sounds like a real meanie! Glad you are able to decide to move him along!

It sounds like you must have to spend a lot of time and energy dealing with and recovering from all of the triggers and reactions. I am glad your pain is getting better, and hope for lots more good changes!

Do you think a lot of your reactions are to sounds? I am very curious about that subject...

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   Posted 6/13/2008 5:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Lassie & welcome to the forum. I too suffer anxiety from overstimulation/oversensitivity to light and sound. I always think other people have the TV on too loud, radio, talk too loud, etc. & lightening in the middle of the night can be a real fright (we've had a fair bit of it here in the Midwest this Spring).

I too am curious to know if others suffer anxiety dues to light & sound. I don't seem to have a problem with jerky movements but would certainly jump of someone snuck up behind me.


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   Posted 6/13/2008 6:09 PM (GMT -6)   
lassieluv, Welcome to The A & P forum.
I am glad your friend is gone and now you can feel some relief.  It has been documented that People with anxiety usually are very bright and very sensitive – they pick up everything. In fact they pick up so much that they’re easily overwhelmed. They’re the people who find lights too bright and sounds too loud when everyone else around them barely notices.
Before I would let this friend stay with you again, I would have a serious conversation explaining to him he is not helping with his idea of having fun by startling triggers you anxiety.
I feel you may be getting into the area of anticipatory anxiety. You posted I'm afraid that if I do something major is going to happen (I haven't a clue as to what)

Common Anticipatory Anxiety Reactions include :

Feelings: anxious, fearful, angry, confused, hopeless, losing control, numb, sad, moody, irritable, guilty.

Behaviors: withdrawal from others or activities, disrupted routines, startle reactions, easily crying

Cognitions: preoccupation with possibility of trauma, concentration difficulties, self-doubt, worry, indecisiveness, memory difficulties

Physical complaints: muscle tension, headaches, gastric distress, sleep and appetite changes, fatigue

Talking usually helps. Share your feelings with friends, family, on here are all good ways to work through the anxiety.

Relaxation techniques: Try deep breathing, muscle relaxation, visualization (imagining peaceful scenes), and/or listening to soothing music.

Realistic self-talk: While we can't always control what happens to us, we can always control what we say to ourselves. It's important to keep things in perspective. Talk to yourself in reasonable ways. Ask yourself "how likely is my fear?" Remind yourself that you have coped before during other challenging times. Don't just dwell on the negative but consciously look for things you can appreciate every day.

Your medication combo looks good if it is working for you.  I am on the Cymbalta and Trazadone.

Keep posting and know we care.

Gentle Hugs to you


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   Posted 6/13/2008 7:27 PM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to you, and congratulations on giving your (not-so) friend the boot. I can't imagine what motivates him, but he's surely not helping.

If I'm on edge, sudden sounds or movements startle me more easily, but loudness in itself falls into the category of "very annoying but not disruptive." Oddly enough, I do have the slight fear of mice (and other small critters) that's stereotypic comedy in cartoons. I finally figured out that it's because they skitter at you in an unpredictable way, lots of sudden zigzagging movements.

We're glad you're here, and it's so good to hear that your pain issues are getting under control.


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   Posted 6/14/2008 11:27 AM (GMT -6)   
My nerves are shot but I did somethng on my own today. For about the past 6mos. I have been confined to a wheelchair and had to depend on others for even the least of my needs. I can walk short distances & drive now which I thought would be great! Today I was forced to get out of the house alone. I was petrified! I needed some Rxs filled and all I had to do was go through the drive in window but I was so afraid someone would see me and I wouldn't know what to say. I had planned to do this yesterday but came up with enough excuses to wait till today. I didn't know how I would make it out of my "comfort zone".

In college I had a pretty good personality, good sense of humor, but I have never liked crowds or being the center of attention. After retiring from the Navy and finishing college I avoided people I knew at all cost. I would do my shopping at night, hide down another aisle if someone were coming, refused invitations, ie class reunions. Even the thought of interacting with people I knew would bring on excessive anxiety to the point of getting sick to my stomach.

I have done a pretty good job of avoiding confrontational situations but today my excuses ran out and I was forced into the real world. I am so shakey right now I don't know when I'll do that again. I have plenty of people food & cat food so I'm set for the time being. I'm sure I will get over this in due tome but right now I am going to take a klonopin, sit back & relax.

Kitt, I may very well have Anticipatory Anxiety but most of the self help you mentioned has been tried with minimal positive results.

And itsokay, I do have an over-sensitivity to sounds however, thunder does not bother me. I think I am too preoccupied with calming my cat.

Thanks to you all for listening.
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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   Posted 6/15/2008 5:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Uuummm, agoraphobia, hadn't thought of that but I don't really think so. I used to have a friend who said she was agoraphobic; I don't want to be anything she was. It's going to take a little discomfort but I will regain my independence and go anywhere I want. The anxiety might tear me up on the inside, but I will force myself to get out there again. My neighbor friend just stopped by and asked if I needed her to pick up anything for me on her way home from work - another trip saved!

As for my panic attacks, they come and go at will. I try to avoid getting into situations that tend to trigger one but that is not the case most of the time. People must think I am crazy when I burst into tears in a shopping mall, leave a whole buggy of items to purchase in the check out aisle because I have to have a breath of fresh air, pull over to the side of the road because I feel paranoid, to name a few instances. Self talk and breathing excercises help some but not much because my main focus is getting out of the situation because I so embarassed. Usually a klonopin and 30mins will take the rushing/desperate feeling away but I will avoid "that store" for fear of being recognized again.

Don't ask me to keep a journal. I do not want to write down my deepest fears or feelings for fear that they will get in the wrong hands and my "secret" will be revealed and I can't stand another hospitalization. But I like it here 'cause no one knows who I am.

Any suggestions will be greatly appreciated.
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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   Posted 6/15/2008 8:40 AM (GMT -6)   
Welcome lassieluv'

Glad you popped over here I posted to you many times in CP.........

I DO hope you will stick around and get the support you do need ......

Email me if you care to talk

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   Posted 6/15/2008 9:24 AM (GMT -6)   

How in the world do you strike up a conversation or even chit chat with a complete stranger while you are shopping? I just want to be invisible, avoid eye contact and get out of there!! I applaud you if this works for you but I can't see myself doing it. Thanks for the idea though!!
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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   Posted 6/15/2008 10:28 AM (GMT -6)   
Peg Leg - that's a good idea! I never looked at the "sample givers" as needing to talk to people - I can do that knowing I am doing something for someone else. Thanks!
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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   Posted 6/16/2008 2:07 PM (GMT -6)   
Hey Lassie,
I admire your drive to get better. You sound really set on getting better and I think that is step one. ANd good job on getting out by yourself. You are really brave and strong for doing that. We are all here for you!!! Sending love and prayers to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
"There is hope for every man, a solid place where we can stand, in this dry in weary land, there is hope for every man... Jesus is hope for every man"  -Casting Crowns

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   Posted 6/17/2008 6:43 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks for thinking I was strong for getting out - I haven't been out since. Ha! I am trying to get the flowers on my front porch and flower garden watered but I don't want anyone to see me. Silly, huh?

Thanks you too for your love & prayers - I lways need them.

Luv Ya!
Do not forget to entertain strangers for by so doing some have unwittingly entertained angels.  (Hebrews 13:2)

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