Going out of town and I am nervous

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   Posted 6/20/2008 10:52 AM (GMT -7)   
We leave to go out of town (by car b/c I don't fly) to the beach on Sunday on a LONG car ride and I am getting nervous. I am pretty much housebound due to my severe anxiety and have recently been diagnosed with a intestinal condition Lymphocytic colitis that we are still trying to find some meds to control better. I am not only nervous about my bladder/bowel problems on the long drive, I am also a little nervous about being at new place away from home. I want my family to be able to have fun and not worry about me, but I know that I might get nervous to be left alone in the room for very long. I pray my stomach will not be acting up and I can enjoy some of the time with my family, but just have all these stupid "what if's" and after 20+ years of anxiety I know that some times they get the better of me if I am not careful.

Just wanted to share with people who understood!


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   Posted 6/20/2008 12:00 PM (GMT -7)   
Leah, I feel for you and what you are experiencing.  One of the moderators here called it "anticipatory anxiety" (that is what I was having at the time I made a post) and she was right.  Anticipating all the what ifs is the worst.  I know you have true health concerns and have you talked to your doctor about the colitis and that you are going on a long care ride and vacation and is there anything you can do to help out so the symptoms are not so bad and you can enjoy yourself.  I too always experience anxiety with new situations or places.  For the first day or so I am in a panic mode and just want to go home where I am safe.  After the first day, I realize how nice the new place is and tell myself that I'm okay and then I begin to relax.  I hope you can find the meds you need to be feeling well for the drive and can try to put the "what ifs" to the back of your mind and enjoy your time with your family.  We're here for you.  You'll be in my thoughts and prayers that you have a wonderful time.

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   Posted 6/20/2008 1:27 PM (GMT -7)   
Hi Leah, when I was in the midst of my panic and had to go away I felt like you, but somehow when you're away from home, there seems to be less anxiety.

You need to let go of the control and how things will work out. Let it all happen and focus on the fun. Visualize how much fun you're going to have.
Keep in mind, whatever you tell your body, it's going to do. Everytime you feel panic, allow the panic balso allow the happy thougths

Do you still uncontrolable diarrhea?
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   Posted 6/20/2008 1:35 PM (GMT -7)   
peacesoul - well, the diarrhea has it's good days and bad days and like I said I finally got a diagnosis of Lymphocytic colitis and we are working to find a medicine that i can take. He of course wanted to put me on a steroid based med, but as you probably know as a fellow Lyme suffer that is not a good idea (at least in the past it has sent me into at tailspin). So, we are looking at other options. He sent me home with one med this week, but I had so many horrible side effects I can't take it. So I will just take a immodium and say a prayer! I will have to call him when I get back to discuss further options of treatment. I am just so super sensitive to medication side effects it might be difficult to treat me. What's new right?!?!

Thanks for everyone's support - I am trying to focus on the "fun" the family will have on vacation. Also, I hopped online to look at the weather today - looks like rain showers possibly all week - Praying God brings the sun b/c my kids are so excited about the beach!

Blessings to all,

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   Posted 6/20/2008 2:20 PM (GMT -7)   
Leah, I'll be thinking of you and I BET you have a great time.

Maybe instead of the Immodium, try Keopectate. It's a natural clay and has no side effects. It used to work for me.

Good luck, I'll send you some good vibes my friend :-)
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   Posted 6/20/2008 6:34 PM (GMT -7)   

I sure hope the car ride goes all right for you and that you are able to rest and enjoy the beach. Watching how much your kids like it might help ease some of the anxiety. At the very least, you'll know that you've faced a hard situation so that they can experience something enjoyable. (It's a rare treat for a lot of people; growing up very landlocked, I never even saw the ocean until I was 25.) Try to focus real strict attention on the little details around you, if you can, and maybe that will take your mind off the anxiety a little. Storing up those rare, precious memories is a very worthwhile thing.


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   Posted 6/20/2008 7:11 PM (GMT -7)   
I just posted a similar post. I hope all goes well for you. I like to look ahead on map quest and see where all the towns and exits that most likely have bathrooms are. I find it helps. I also recently confronted my fear of flying (with some xanax) and aside from take off and landing found it a little less stressful than a long car ride w/ crohns. Crohns and flying sucks to but we have to live right!

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   Posted 6/21/2008 9:07 AM (GMT -7)   

Good Morning,

I am so excited to hear your going to the beach.  You will soak up the sun and the warm breeze.  I envy you.

If your traveling the freeway or and state highway just stop at every way stop rest. I love to go to the way-stop rests and see all the people from out of town after I make my mad dash for ladies room. :-)   I fugure they all really stopped for the bathroom too, so you are in good company.

It is possible to tangle yourself up in a stress knot all by yourself. “If this happens, then that might happen and then we’re all up the creek!” Most of these things never happen, so why waste all that energy worrying needlessly?

Give stress thought-trains the red light and stop them in their tracks. Okay so it might go wrong – how likely is that, and what can you do to prevent it?

Have a wonderful time and know we are right here for you.  You will do well.



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   Posted 6/21/2008 7:12 PM (GMT -7)   


I think it pays to remember that no-one really notices anyone but themselves. Not that we are selfish, just well, we don't judge others nearly as harshly as we do ourselves. Most likely no-one will notice if you have tummy problems unless you spell it out (I know my family doesn't have a clue about my IBS!!).

I really hope you enjoy family and beach time. Tell those "what ifs" to go to tahiti for a few days, or send them to me and I'll give them what for! lol. You have fun now.

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