I'm very sorry to read you that you too lost your Mother at a very young age.It is a permanent void that will never be filled,but we have to make the most of what is left.
Even if your Father hadn't been in the Car when your Mother was killed,I don't imagine he would have ever gotten over it.
It was all my Dad could do to get out of Bed and go to Work.He had to because he had me to provide and care for.
My Mother was the love of his life and a part of Dad died with her.I can't begin to imagine the grief and pain he carried until they were together again.They being together and this time no one can separate them is the only thing that brings me comfort with Dad's death.
I had a Grandmother who was an Angel on Earth.She was 55 1/2 soon 56 when I was born.She had no hesitations to bring me Home and care for me.
I believe with all my Heart that I was the Baby she and my Grandfather lost.Their Baby was returned to them only in the form of a Granddaughter.
When I was a few Month's old,Dad remarried to a Woman with a Daughter 1 Week older,however the Marriage didn't work.He then remarried 3 Month's shy of my 3rd Birthday to a beautiful Woman.Their Marriage lasted until her death in '03.
I feel blessed that God sent 2
virtuous Women to stand in my Mother's stead.I couldn't ask for better.
Am very sorry your Step-Mother treated you unwell.Wonder why she accepted your Children as her Grandchildren,yet was Abusive towards you?Did she have Children of her own when your Father Married her.Am sorry if this is a painful question.I mean well.
I don't personally know you,but you seem to be a very kind and thoughtful Woman and your Mother would be very pleased how well you turned out.
God won't put on us more than we can handle.We our survivors and have the strength inside ourselves to overcome whatever is slung our way.