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   Posted 7/11/2008 12:16 PM (GMT -6)   
I've been homebound for a few months, occassionally stepping out to run a few errands, but never anything out of walking distance.  Sometimes it can be really hard.  I have bad thoughts, even those rare, terrible gems when I feel like "EDIT What can I do to try to relieve these thoughts and become more active and public?
Hi there Due to age of members allowed to join I edited out a couple of words
PLZ email me if you would like an explanation......LYN

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   Posted 7/11/2008 1:16 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi and welcome  :-)

I was housebound for a close to a year about 20 yrs ago. And still to this day I struggle with a/phobia.

Have or are you in therapy? do you take any meds? Do you work?

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   Posted 7/11/2008 1:23 PM (GMT -6)   
I am in therapy and I take an anti-depressant. They've worked, but never consistently. Part of my problem is that I'm looking for consistency, a sense of my old self when I never knew about agoraphobia, etc. So, when I do go out, I am expecting things to go wrong because that is what I'm conditioned to. Then that triggers my need to go indoors, and then the vicious cycle continues...

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   Posted 7/11/2008 10:27 PM (GMT -6)   
I was housebound for almost 2 years many years ago, and the way I got back out of it was taking small steps forward each day.  I'd go a little farther in the car each day, walk or ride my bike a little farther each day.  As you said, you have conditioned yourself to think negatively and so you can do the opposite and condition yourself to think positively.  I use constant positive thoughts sometimes to get through really rough things that I have to do.  I keep telling myself that although I'm uncomfortable, this cannot hurt me, I will not pass out, I will not drop dead, I will be okay and will be able to manage whatever happens, etc.  It isn't always easy, and doesn't work immediately, but if you keep working at it, you can move forward.  Take small steps and I know you can do this.  I'm always here if you need to talk, or need a boost! 

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   Posted 7/12/2008 4:47 AM (GMT -6)   


I am very sorry to read you are suffering from this miserable ill.The best piece of advice I can offer (and I know this is going to be rough) is to feel the fear and do it anyway.I was housebound Agoraphobic 5 + Years and am stepping out to live again.If I can step outside my front door,walk down my walk and get in a Vehicle you and anyone else can do it too!Agoraphobia is the MOST scariest thing I ever in life experienced,but to get on the other side we must step through the wall regardless how we feel.I'm living proof it can be done.

Best and hang in there :-)



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   Posted 7/12/2008 6:06 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there
There is also Cognitive behavioural Therapy ( maybe spelling it wrong lol too early ) anyways the link is above in Resources with Wens name at the end

Have you tried a short term benzo that may help as well ...........

I am happy to see you are in therapy and I do wish that those thoughts will go away
You area viable human being that has a disorder and needs support.........
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   Posted 7/17/2008 11:05 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi, Everyone!

I apologize for the tardiness of my reply.  I've been visiting doctors, trying to solve my TMJ problem.  Yes, more pain and suffering.  It seems that the only time that I do get out is to visit those in white coats and stethoscopes.

Sydnee10: I agree with your method.  I feel that slowly re-conditioning myself to the public/outdoors will be beneficial in the long run.  I feel like Bill Murray in the "Groundhog Day" when the day's always repeat themselves in the exact same order, and it's up to Murray to change his path.  For me, I go out, I know my routine, and then go back in.  The next day, I'll go out, knowing what didn't work the last time, and then try something new until I run into a roadblock; and then so on and so forth.
I also have a question(s) for you Sydnee10.  How did you manage to survive indoors for over five years?  How were you able to survive financially?  Did you have any help?
I ask simply because I have my family that helps me with this, and am curious to know if it's been a solo mission for you.

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   Posted 7/17/2008 11:42 AM (GMT -6)   

The advice of extending beyond your comfort zone by just a little bit each day sounds very good to me. I'm not agoraphobic, but I do have a hard time breaking old habits or creating new ones. The tactic that has the best chance of success for me is exactly what Sydnee and Junebug are describing.

Good luck - you're strong, and you can do this!

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