I just had a converstaion with my Mom who is 73 and I'm 42. She worries about
me all the time as well.
In the last 8 yrs I've gone though hell with a seperation as well, living alone, getting lupus/lyme, another bad relationship, me falling apart. And now me really struggling with my lyme and anxiety and being on disability from work
My poor Mom sits up all night worried about
me and my sisters. My Mom has a bad case of fibro and the stress makes her sick as well.
What's a mother to do?
Well I explained to my Mom, that her being stressed out and sick over me being in peril makes me feel terrible and that instead of her using her energy to worry, she should use her energy to better her life and just think good thoughts for me.
Her worry and negative energy actually makes it worse.
One places their worries on others normally to avoid their own issues. Not in any way saying you're doing this, but my Mom does.
My Mom has now put all her faith in knowing things will work out for the good and is no longer stressed about
my sisters and me.
My Niece (my mom's granddaughter) also has a fatal illness and is in a wheelchair. My niece is 15 and will not live to see 20.
My Mom has had to learn how to block that reality out of her life. Actually, we've all blocked it out. Instead we all focus on the good and that energy helps my niece in more ways than being worried about
You put good energy out there and healing happens. You worry and feel ill, you fester the heartache even longer
Moral of my story, you need to express your concerns and then put faith into the Universe or God or whatever your belief in that it will all work out.
Worrying has never solved one problem on this planet. It's wasted energy
Wishing you all the best
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