Makes sense to me Nannners.... the thought maybe of not having her to alleviate your anxiety or be there to support you could have been enough to create some anxiety in you. I know exactly how it feels to have your kids use you as their therapists. My youngest daughter, who had my beautiful grandaughter , is only 18 and presently lives with her partner... the baby's dad! They are both Taurus... let me tell you , stubborn, stubborn, stubborn... ! if you say white, she / he will say black just to argue. I love her dearly and she has a great sense of humor which has always gotten us through rough patches... She always had a mind of her own.. and no matter what mom might say, she has to find out for herself what kind of pickle she can get herself in next. She's a good girl and great mom... but lately , she and her partner have been fighting a lot. Well she calls me or comes over crying , and telling me all about it. Now , I had an abusive dad, and abusive husband, . If you remember I had to scoot with my girls with nothing but the clothes on our backs ... so my whole life has been about abuse, and how to get myself and my children past it.... The minute I see her crying, everything comes flashing back to me. I can't be objective if my life depended on it... plus the minute she leaves I have panic attacks , flashbacks, and can't stop crying... can't sleep etc etc. I've told her to please find a councelor that she can confide in but she hasn't done that yet... she says, "mom you've always been there for me.. I've always come to you with everything... " So I completely understand... it isn't weird at all. From one mama to the next , I think we need another category on this forum: mothers of teen-aged or grown children? what do you think ?
completely understanding Mary
51 yr.old retired RN,Crohn's D for last35 yrs..severe esophagitis, migraines,strictures,urethral stricture,depression,probable MS.,RLS, arthritis