You know I am on your cheer squad! You have done the very best thing, admitting you have an eating disorder is the first step in recovery. Try not to focus to much on the gender of your therapist. Sometimes it's good to get a male POV.
I'm so happy that things are working out with you and your hubby. Just remember that you always need to take care of mom first. Please keep us posted, and try and keep that three meals a day going. It does wonders with anxiety! Trust me (from an old bear!)