Need some advice on how to get through vacation

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   Posted 8/31/2008 12:51 PM (GMT -6)   
  This is the first time we are going on vacation since my husband had his leg amputated and I am FREAKING OUT about it, we are going to Mount Rushmore and several other places along the way. Everything is going through my mind the what if's. I really don't know how to get through this I am so afraid of being that far from home also afraid of the elevation every thing is going through my mind at once what if I get dizzy from the elevation what if I have a major panic attack and I am so far from home, It's a week before we leave and I am already having panic with tingling hands cant breath you all know the drill I am sure. Any advice or words of encouragement would be greatly appreciated
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   Posted 8/31/2008 1:35 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Anna,

Focus on your breathing and take note of your signature, keep that in mind. One day at a time, in this case one minute at a time. Try to keep a positive attitude. You can have a good time if you can relax with it. I know that you can do this. Try to be there for your husband, I am sure that it is hard for him also. But he is giving it his best, and you can do that too. I have faith that you can do this Anna, Just breathe. And focus. And take it as it comes, think positive. You will be okay.

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   Posted 8/31/2008 4:35 PM (GMT -6)   

Hello Anna,

I am sorry you are having this anticipatory anxiety.  First of all Mount Rushmore is not in the category of the Rocky Mountains so altitude sickness should not be on your worry list. Pikes Peak in Colorado is 14,115 feet and Mount Rushmore is only 5,200 feet.  Altitude sickness commonly occurs above 8,000 feet.

Now can you tell me what else is on your list of fears? How does your husband feel about the trip?  Is he able to drive? give me a bit more info and let me see if I can help you decrease those fears. :).

Practice staying in the moment, don't worry about yesterday and tomorrow will take care of itself so stay focused on what is happening right now in your life.

Looking forward to hearing more from you.

Gentle Hugs


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   Posted 9/1/2008 3:17 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Anna,

You have the dreaded "what if's" confused

Don't let them take over what should be a wonderful holiday away. I find when thus happens to me I need to wtite down all my worries and work through the possibilty of them happening. Mostly I have a better chance of winning the lottery.

Stay in the moment, try not to worry about can take care of itself. Please let us know how you are going..and have a lovely trip!


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   Posted 9/1/2008 6:49 AM (GMT -6)   
There's a lot of "what if's" that aren't negative. What if you have fun? What if you and your husband have the best time of your life? What if you come back with lots pictures of how much fun you had? What if you make some new friends on this vacation? These "what if's" are much more likely than the negative ones running through your mind. Mt Rushmore ain't going to grow another 3000 feet over night. There's nothing wrong with the what if game just got to play it right.

I get the what if's too about leaving home and panic attacks, flashbacks, blackouts and other nasty things go through my mind. If you can't play the what if game in your favor then just don't play it. Just like Vegas, look for a game you can play and win.

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   Posted 9/1/2008 10:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi, Anna!

Maybe I can help you a little with your Mt. Rushmore fears. I tend to get some altitude sickness at very low altitudes (8-9,000 ft). I spent several days in the Rushmore area not long ago and had absolutely no problems. If it didn't mess me up with my tendencies, it's extremely unlikely to cause problems for you and your husband.

Also, the Park - in fact, all National Parks - make me feel very safe healthwise. They are well-equipped for the mobility-impaired. There are rangers *all* over, as well as lots of visitors, so if you have a genuine health scare, people will immediately be able to help you. Despite having a lot of people around, it's not uncomfortably crowded. You don't have to hike up anything except some stairs to the visitor center to view the mountain - no trails, no rocky paths, just sidewalk and stairs. Crazy Horse is even easier - you just sit in a little openair shuttle and get driven from its (air-conditioned) visitor center - right next to its paved parking lot - over to near the monument. You don't even stop to get out.

And the scenery is beautiful. You'll not have to deal much with traffic, and the roads are all in good shape. Let yourself just kick back and enjoy seeing something that a lot of folks never get to because of its mid-prairie location. I think you'll be glad you went.


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   Posted 9/1/2008 12:45 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Anna... how I love your name!
Like Kitt says,,, for the moment try and concentrate on your breathing... count while you hold your breath... and then release it. Also if a "what if" rears it's ugly head... nip it in the bud... immediately ,distract yourself... get up and go for a walk, notice the flowers or birds or count the trees.... Sing! Put music that really uplifts you and just sing to your little hearts content...
Write down the positive what ifs... the minute a neg one enters your mind...whip out your journal, and counter it with a positive one...
Our life is wasted worrying about things that will never happen...
Good luck dear Anna... keep posting... venting your fears wil help also... and this family will support you through everything.
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