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Date Joined Jun 2003
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   Posted 9/2/2008 7:20 AM (GMT -6)   
When we're talking and I mention a problem (s) I'm facing she remarks with,"I know..I'm going through the same" or "I've been there" or she'll rehash past problems (I've already heard millions of times) that she can't get over.She seriously lacks empathy.
She forever talks about expensive pieces of Jewelry,Vases,Dolls,Dishes etc that belonged to her deceased loved ones.Her Great-Grandfather was a Doctor,however during an era when Doctor's (at least around this Area) were paid with a homecooked Meal,fresh Country Farm Eggs or other means than Money for services rendered.He died young..
My late Grandfather was a very Wealthy Man paid with Money.He and my Grandmother didn't have such exquisite material riches.
She is aware I have an Inheritance and that I'm going to be quiet comfortable.The way she acts makes me think she is resentful.
She is in a serious financial bind because of a Man.It isn't my fault nor my problem.She will be paid the EXACT amount I owe her,however I won't give her Money to pay off her debts.
Majority of her problems are self-made.I honestly think they started when she came along 6 Years after her Brother.He hated her (spoiled and lost the attention) and still hates her,so she had to come up with self-inflicted pain to justify his feelings for her.
I love her to pieces,see the goodness she possesses,but I figure when I move out of State our Frienship will end.

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   Posted 9/2/2008 7:49 AM (GMT -6)   


Good Morning.  I know many people with the very same personality as your Sister friend.  They are self centered and call to say "How are you?" and before you even answer they are off on their own issues.

Conversations have to be a two way  street.  I have found people as you describe not to be good friends as they trigger me so I have left these people alone and do not count them as good friends.

Your friend obviously triggers you so I would suggest you start to distance yourself from her in preparation for your move.

Take care


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   Posted 9/3/2008 8:25 AM (GMT -6)   

That's good advice from Kitt. I know that this friend has been getting under your skin a lot. She just doesn't seem to be able to give back to your friendship in the way that you need. I do think you're wise to close up your obligations to her and then allow the friendship to fade after you move.

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