First of all hugs to you. I have a friend that lives out east who has this dx and is on medication. The trick is to make sure they take their meds and don't stop.
Of course that is easier said then done ! My friend does take her meds and when she went off her med she went into a deep depression and hurt herself. She spent weeks in the hospital on a ventilaor and then into a special home where she was not alone.
Disturbances suffered by those with borderline personality disorder are wide-ranging. The general profile of the disorder typically includes a pervasive instability in mood extreme "black and white" thinking, or "splitting"; chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self image, identity and behavior as well as a disturbance in the individual's sense of self. . In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation. These disturbances have a pervasive negative impact on many or all of the psychosocial facets of life. This includes the inability to maintain relationships in work, home, and social settings.
My friend is very manipulative and will cry wolf saying she is in terrible shape and then later admit she was just seeking attention. In the case of my friend she played me like a violin until I finally figured out her stories of dire straights were not matching.
I visited her once and we had a good time but she is very quick to change moods. She would easily become upset if things did not go smoothly.
I have stopped feeding her need to get attention from the stories she would tell. After she admits she is not in trouble but just wanted attention she always emails me asking me to forgive her.
There is not a lot to forgive as this is a serious disorder but I do hold her accountable for her lies when looking for attention.
BPD does not go away. It is sad that people have to go through life with this mental disorder but with meds it can be controlled.
Now sweet Mary you want me to tell you how to get your daughter to take her meds.
I don't have the answer sad to say. This disorder due to the many facets is very difficult to keep the person compliant.
You have my love and support.