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   Posted 9/16/2008 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi it's been allmost a year now sept 24 will be a year, that I thought I had hiv. I thought wow I have a new girlfriend and i like her alot. We had sex unprotected and I never had been tested for stds. I was her first partner. My life change that day and i'm still trying to convince myself I don't have it. Not a day goes by where it dosent cross my mind. I don't know why I hadc three test. Two at 92 94 days and one at seven months. I keep on thinking what if what if. The lab tech messed up the test, maybe i'm different and take longer. It's hard sometimes. I have gotten alot better but i'm here writing this. Maybe someone out there has some advice. I would really like that. I don't know how long is this going to last. Maybe its a anxeity.

Post Edited (ricky321) : 9/16/2008 7:27:37 PM (GMT-6)

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   Posted 9/16/2008 9:37 PM (GMT -6)   
ricky-this is a very anxious subject of course you have anxiety about it. Why did you get tested in the first place? You know you should always wear protection. Get tested one more time and tell yourself this is the truth. Getting teseted is a very anxious thing so self talk your self through it stay in the moment and know either way you'll be ok. hope this helps----Smiles, gennie

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   Posted 9/16/2008 9:49 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank u I don't know why I got tested jusy one day I felt like I should. I have been with a women I didn't know very well I think thats why I started to worry

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   Posted 9/17/2008 12:12 AM (GMT -6)   


I know it's really hard but try not to get caught up in the dreaded "what if's" cannot change what will be and although I am no expert it sounds to me like you are in the clear.

Stay in the moment, stay in today, not in what may lie ahead. That is what gets me through and I hope it helps you out to. Welcome to HW BTW, it's lovely to have you as a member.



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   Posted 9/17/2008 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
Ricky you did not say if this woman has hiv or is this just a fear that you have? If you have been tested 3 times and it comes back neg. then you should not stress over this. ask yourself what is the liklihood instead of what if. good luck you will be fine. Barb

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   Posted 9/17/2008 6:00 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks to everyone and there kind words. I will just keep on trying to focus on the now and the moment. I do feel like i'm obbsessing on this. Ive never gone threw something like this and maybe ive never notice if I obbsese on anything else before. I did smoke herb for over ten years non stop on a rutine. When I started to worrie I stopped because it wasent helping. I think sometimes I trading one for the other. Thank u agian for repling to me

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   Posted 9/18/2008 9:28 AM (GMT -6)   

Hey Ricky,

I think the best thing for you to do at this time is find a good therapist who can help you get past this obsession about HIV.

Also here is the link to the HIV information link.

Try to remember to stay in the moment and believe in the test results.
I believe you are truly having anxiety and focusing all your thoughts on the "what ifs".
Take care and I know you have come to us for help and we are here to help you.

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