Welcome to HealingWell.
This sounds so difficult. She definately needs to talk to somebody. Is there anyway that you could not react to her abusiveness. Just ignore it and tell her gently that she needs help? I know that she sounds like she gets explosive, like you have to walk on egg shells around her. ONly she can help herself, but maybe you could push the books towards her, and keep mentioning the counseling. This is a touchy situation. She is in denial.
Can you talk to your psycologist? Maybe he/she could give you some tips on what to do also. At least help you through this difficult situation.
Best wishes for a wonderful day,
Moderator-Depression and fibromyalgia
fibromyalgia, Chronic fatigue, depression,allergies