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   Posted 10/21/2008 10:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello there i would like to know how people have kids with panic disorder? i was pregnant a few months ago and i had a miscarriage but in a way i was kind of relieved because i knew i wouldnt have to deal with the whole pregnancy thing or else i would die. im terrified of becoming pregnant because of fear of labor i cant even go into a hospital without panicking and running out of there. is there something they give people with this disorder to calm them when they go in to deliver? like a strong dose of a tranquilizer? please help me im afraid of ever being able to have kids because of this i just dont think i can handle it!

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   Posted 10/21/2008 11:22 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi gingee

You know, I really don't think it's all that strange to have a tremendous fear of childbirth.  I think I did, not panic, but alot of fear.  I just took it one day at a time because there wasn't any going back!  There are drugs now that make the worst of childbirth much less difficult than they used to be - don't be a heroine and try going without them!  So don't let this fear stop you from having children though maybe you might want to talk to a therapist about it if you think it really is out of hand.  A kiddo is worth it all for most women. 

Or you may just be one of those people who choose not to have children.  No shame in that!  The world could do with a few more people making that choice.

Ultimately, it is within your control whatever you decide.  Maybe reminding yourself of that will make you feel less anxious.

Georgie Girl

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   Posted 10/22/2008 12:24 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi Gingee,

I don't have children, and I amazed by people who do. Especially the ones with panic/anxiety disorder!! As Georgie said I think it is natural to be scared, I certainly would be. It's not just the physical pain, but the lifetime you have ahead of you with this little soul relying on you.

Try not to get ahead of yourself on this though okay? If it is meant to be then you will have children when you are ready. I'm not sure how old you are, but unless you're around 40 then you have plenty of time to work through this. You may even decide to adopt if that is what works for you. Stay in the moment..don't let this wear you down. If it is really stressing you then maybe you could ask your doctor. I'm sure some other Mom's will be along soon with some advice.


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   Posted 10/22/2008 8:55 AM (GMT -6)   

Good Morning Gingee,

I am the mother of 4 so I do understand your fear. smhair

Childbirth classes give you a chance to learn more about what happens during pregnancy and labor.  I attended a class with my first one and knowing ahead of time helped me.

Also talking to your OB physician and having him/her explain about the different pain medications and how they work would lessen you fear. Especially the use of epidurals make a world of difference in the decrease of labor pain.

Epidurals are the most common way to ease labor pain. They are used in more than half of women during labor. Everyone I know that has had an epidural loved it.  Of course each person will choose what is best fitted to  them with the guidance of their physician.

Take care and Welcome to our world............we are so glad you are a member of the HealingWell Family.



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   Posted 10/22/2008 9:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey there. I have two children and panic disorder so it can be done :-). You have a lot of time to prepare for the delivery. It helped me to take a lamaze class and to read "What to Expect When Expecting". I didn't think I'd be able to do it either, but something just took over when I was pregnant. I was much calmer about my health than usual. They do have drugs they can give you to calm you down during labor if you need it. I forgot the name (Demeral maybe?), but I did get some intravenously with my first baby. The doc's decided to induce labor because my amniotic fluid was low and I started to get panicky. You will never have so many people around you or be so closely monitored than when you are in labor. That was my experience anyways. I felt calmer because I knew that the nurses and doctors were always only a minute away if there was a problem. During my pregnancy I drank a lot of herbal tea and warm milk. Don't let your fear get in the way of having a family if that's what you want. You can do it.

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   Posted 10/22/2008 9:22 AM (GMT -6)   
Just wanting to give you the warmest welcome ever to HW
I know you will find this place as great as I do

My a/p seemed to lessen some while preggars BUT
It sure has gotten worse since having a oung lady NOW living at home lol


Ahhh But you have a ways to go

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