My Dear Sweet Mary,
First of all I am so happy that you are talking to us. It feels to me that you have been beaten down so many times in your life that you have some issues with low self esteem. Now that is just my thoughts running wild on a motor scooter on the beach.........(HUGS)
Lets try to get that esteem up. OK?
People with low self esteem
Are typically unassertive in their behavior with others.
Are fearful of conflict with others.
Are hungry for the approval of others.
Are fraught with irrational beliefs and have a tendency to think irrationally.
Are susceptible to all kinds of fears.
Have a tendency to become emotionally stuck and immobilized.
Are unable to affirm or to reinforce themselves positively.
Are unable to make an honest assessment of their strengths, qualities, and good points; they find it difficult to accept compliments or recognition from others.
Have poorly defined self-identities with a tendency to be chameleons in order to fit in with others.
Are insecure, anxious, and nervous when they are with others.
Often become overcome with anger about their status in life and are likely to have chronic hostility or chronic depression.
Are easily overcome with despair and depression when they experience a setback or loss in their lives.
Fulfill roles in their families of origin that are counter-productive and maladaptive. These roles carry over into their adult lives.
Are vulnerable to mental health problems and have a propensity to use addictive behavior to medicate their hurt and pain. Such addictive behavior can include alcohol, drugs, food, gambling, shopping, smoking, workaholism, or the search for excitement, truth, wisdom, and a guru with an easy guide to the achievement of happiness. Reference: James J. Messina, Ph.D. & Constance M. Messina, Ph.D
Whoa.......this is me. Go figure.
I have been working on many of these issues and I do understand looking for a guru with a magic wand. How grand that would be.
I will help you work on building your self esteem back up. But you have to promise to love yourself first. Many warm prayers for you my dear friend.
Kitt, Co-Moderator: Anxiety/Panic & Depressionhttp://www.healingwell.com/donate *~* Not a mental health professional of any kindIt is health that is real wealth and not pieces of gold and silver.~Mahatma Gandhi~
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