My Husband is too loud

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   Posted 10/27/2008 9:58 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi Everyone, cry
Please help me here as I dont know whaty to do.My husband was is a very loud person, whenever he is on the phone or even if has to call anybody in the house from one room to the other room.His voice is ebnormally loud.
Last night i told him that i dont like his loud behavier and it aggrivates me and that he need to control over is volume.
But he got mad and started using foul language , i dont know how to make him understand.
As go through anxiaty and i cant controll myself and then i just cry by myself alone.
Please help me and advise me what to do. cry

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   Posted 10/27/2008 10:12 AM (GMT -6)   


I am sorry your having difficulty with your anxiety.  I would sit down and ask your husband to try not to talk so loud on the phone.  Do not get into an argument.  If he continues to talk loud on the phone, remove yourself to another room.

Good Luck



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   Posted 10/27/2008 1:31 PM (GMT -6)   
Do you think he needs do get his hearing checked? I ask that because my brother always talked abnormally loud. He was partially deaf in one ear from years of playing loud music in a band. Sorry that you are having to deal with that. I don't like loud noises either. Sometimes my dh really gets on my nerves. When I have anxiety or PMS I feel like every sound he makes is amplified.

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   Posted 10/27/2008 1:51 PM (GMT -6)   

I tend to talk loudly and I have an agreement with those who know me & hear me escalating, which I can do when feeling anxious. I've asked them simply to remind me to use my "inside voice". It works instanty for me. I can't stand loud noises & feel like an idiot when I riase my own voice, but I can & will do it often without awareness of how it affects others.

Hope this helps.


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   Posted 10/27/2008 3:34 PM (GMT -6)   
What if you wore earplugs or headphones w/ soothing music when he is on the phone.
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   Posted 10/28/2008 7:49 PM (GMT -6)   

Does your husband realise he is loud? My mum's volume goes up as soon as she gets on the phone, its ridiculous! I shut every door i can and focus listening to music- my ipod is great for disguising the noisiness of the outside world.

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   Posted 10/28/2008 10:45 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Shobna,

Welcome to HW. That must be really frustrating, and it's not right for your husband to be verabally abusing you with foul language. I would try talking to him again, when he is in a calm mood. Use "I" statements like "when you talk loudly I feel anxious", or "I feel upset when you swear at me". It usually gets a better result than "be quiet!").

My guy sneezes like an elephant stuck in a wind tunnel and it scares me half to death smhair !!

I wish you luck. Don't put up with foul language okay. Let us know how it goes.


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