Posted 11/1/2008 8:41 PM (GMT -6)
Hi Sam, very interesting about your family! I would guess that your mom has a special appreciation for you as her only daughter... I know my sister hoped to have a daughter but has two sons (although she is very attached to them, trust me!). Family dynamics are definitely interesting.
Lyn, your comments about your parents remind me some of how I feel about mine... while I am close to my mom, I am much closer to my dad. He is much calmer than she is and easier for me to talk to about things. But growing up, there were times when I needed to talk to her about girl things, so to speak, that I couldn't discuss with him, and she didn't make me feel comfortable about being able to do that. We can talk about those things more now than we did (largely b/c of my health issues), but when I was a teenager, the communication just wasn't there... I remember envying my friends who could talk openly with their mothers about things that I couldn't discuss with her or ask about b/c I knew she'd make me feel awkward. Ironically, my mom has a similar relationship with her parents... she was much closer to her father, who passed a few years ago, than she is with her mother, who is still living but in poor health. My mom has much of her father's personality, quite forceful with high expectations of others, but somewhat closed emotionally. She is loving in her way but does not reach out and express her feelings easily.