Good Morning Ben,
I know your right in the middle of working hard at learning to deal with the anxiety but I agree that going to a party and being exposed to alcohol is not in your best interest.
The day will come when you will be able to go and have the strength to stay away from the alcohol and just drink soda,sparkling wate, coffee or whatever.
Do not give in to this today.
The key to switching out of an anxiety state is to accept it fully. Remaining in the present and accepting your anxiety cause it to disappear.
A: Accept the anxiety. Welcome it. Don’t fight it. Replace your rejection, anger, and hatred of it with acceptance. By resisting, you’re prolonging the unpleasantness of it. Instead, flow with it. Don’t make it responsible for how you think, feel, and act.
W: Watch your anxiety.
Look at it without judgment – not good, not bad. Rate it on a 0-to-10 scale and watch it go up and down.
Be detached. Remember, you’re not your anxiety. The more you can separate yourself from the experience, the
more you can just watch it.
A: Act with the anxiety.
Act as if you aren’t anxious. Function with it. Slow down if you have to, but keep going. Breathe slowly and normally. If you run from the situation your anxiety will go down, but your fear will go up. If you stay, both your anxiety and your fear will go down.
R: Repeat the steps.
Continue to accept your anxiety, watch it, and act with it until it goes down to a comfortable level. And it will. Just keep repeating these three steps: accept, watch, and act with it.
E: Expect the best.
What you fear the most rarely happens. Recognize that a certain amount of anxiety is normal. By expecting future anxiety you’re putting yourself in a good position to accept it when it comes again.
You know that I am here and that I support you so don't let it take over your life. Remember you have anxiety, it does not have you.
Gentle Hugs Carpet Man,