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   Posted 12/6/2008 2:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I feel so unappreciated by my family , i feel like i am a joke, my husband does things that hurt, like i will clean up everything and he will just throw stuff around leaving it on the floor, so now the kids leave paper , forks, shoes , books, anything i feel like a slave not a mom, they never do anything sweet for me never , he jokes well thats your job to pick it up, and he says he is joking but he isn't, i can see why older women never get remarried why be a slave for the rest of your life, i know i have to wash clothes, dishes, help with homework, and etc. but this is unfair. mad

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   Posted 12/6/2008 3:27 PM (GMT -6)   

im sorry- your husbands attitude sucks! being a mum is a full time job, you certainly dont need all the extra negativity. im sure you will say yes, but have you sat him down and tried to explain that what he is doing is both hurtful and unhelpful?

you know you can always come here and be accepted for who you are. you are right, you dont deserve this at all- it would agitate me also. thinking of you, Maz XX

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   Posted 12/6/2008 4:46 PM (GMT -6)   


I am sorry he is acting out.  don't do his laundry for a week and perhaps he will be nicer.  Put coal in his Christmas stocking.

Hoping your smiling if not I have an arsenal of ideas devil

I agree try to talk to him re his behavior but do not let it turn into a heated argument.  If things start to get to hot, drop the subject for now and walk away.




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   Posted 12/6/2008 4:54 PM (GMT -6)   
I wonder if you were to quit picking up after them for one day if they would see the difference. Then maybe they would start picking up after themselves. It is worth a try.

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   Posted 12/7/2008 1:20 PM (GMT -6)   
i have talked to him but he still does it, i know he thinks my job is to pick up after him all the time, one time i left one of his books he left in the bathroom floor and the kids got it wet and i just laughed inside so hard, it wasn't the kids fault he shouldn't leave it there. i guess i need to do this more

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   Posted 12/7/2008 1:27 PM (GMT -6)   
You should do like that Mom who went on strike!!! She went on strike for like 2 weeks, they didn't look at Mom the same afterwards, and started cleaning up after themselves too. Good luck!
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   Posted 12/7/2008 2:39 PM (GMT -6)   
Machelle, he sounds just like my brother-in-law... and like you, I can see why some women never marry or remarry (I'm single). My sister has a lupus-related condition but her husband just walks over her, leaves stuff laying around and doesn't help out even when she's asked for his help... in fact, he does it on purpose.

I like the idea of the "Mom on strike" thing that Nanners suggested... whatever works that will teach them will do... and I am sorry that you are going through this. You deserve better.

Take care of yourself.

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