I have a problem and need to vent my frustrations.My post is rather lengthy,so I hope ya'll understand.I ask that no member offer "tough love" or throw about how I need to rid toxic People from my life.
A Woman I've known all my life and who is a Friend recently started asking to borrow Money.At first it was $60,$40 (twice) then $150 and $200..
After I loaned her the Money,she was over one Night and told me she was trying to get hold of another Friend who lives a distance away to ask for $200-$300 so we could go play slots.After she said slots,it didn't take long for it to sink in why she asked me for Money..
Obviously I'm not the first nor will be the last she has borrowed or asked to borrow Money from.A Month or 2 ago,she called at 4:30AM and told me she was out driving around and asked if she could come over,I told her sure.While here,she asked if I know of anyone who would loan her Money.I told her I don't have any Money and don't know of anyone.She thought about a Pastor,so after leaving my House went to he and his Wife's.Next time we talked,she told me they gave her $1,000.There is no telling what sad sob Story she gave,and I'm unsure if she's repaid them.The other Day a Cousin told me she asked another Woman in Town for $5,000.00..
Since I don't have a Car,she takes me places if/when I need to go.I buy Gas for her,because I can't expect People to take me somewhere and I not put Gas in their Vehicle.I told her I don't expect she repay me for the Gas,Food or Soda's I've bought her..only the Cash from writing Checks for more than purchased.
Friday Night I called and told her I'm bored and don't want to stay Home,so she came and got me and we went to her House.We played Uno and Cards with her 18-1/2 Year old Daughter and a Friend of her Daughter.
While at her House,her Daughter gave me the Razor Cell she no longer uses,which I thought nice,but couldn't understand why she did it.The Daughter told me about a Cell Store where I could buy a Faceplate for the Razor.My Friend said she'd take me by there when we went to their Cell carrier to add me to their plan,which I will pay $10 Monthly for.
Well,Saturday we went to the small neighboring City because I had to go to the HFS (Health Food Store),Wal-Mart to purchase the Plasma my Dad's Estate bought and to pick up a few other items.We went to the Cell Store as well.
After leaving the Cell Store,we went to the Cell Carrier and I was added to their plan.The Guy told me the Battery in the Razor was dead,so we had to go back to the Cell Store so I could buy a new Battery.I will soon buy a Car and since it's difficult to get places,I decided to buy a Car charger.
What infuriates and downright pi$$es me off is: the first time we were at the Cell Store,I asked the Sales Clerk if they had a Bathroom.While I went to the Bathroom my Friend went on to her Vehicle.After we returned to my House and I was unloading Bags,I couldn't find the Home charger,so called the Store.
The Sales Clerk told me that my Friend told her she would take it out with her while I was in Bathroom.After getting off the Telephone with her,I immediately called my Friend.She told me she did not take the charger.I called the Store again the next Day and told the Woman what my Friend said.She told me the same as the Day before and said,"Come back and I will give you another Charger,because I'm not going to lose my Job over your dishonest Friend."So she got a Home charger at my expense.
It makes NO sense to give me a Razor for free,add me to the Plan,tell me she won't allow me to pay her the $10 Monthly,yet steal a Charger I bought and paid for.I HATE for my kind Heart and generosity to be used and taken advantage of and when People steal and lie to me..especially those who say they are my Friend!
Our Families have known each other over 50 Years,she knew my late Biological Mother,Dad and is aware I am soon to begin receiving my Inheritance.She also knew I received a partial amount of Cash on Hand remaining from the Estate on Saturday.
She came to the House Yesterday Evening,but beforehand called from her Cell in tears and distraught.I asked what was wrong and she told me she was headed to my House and would be here in 45 minutes.
She told me she went to see her Dad and asked for help and he told her no.He is an ***hole who didn't treat his Wife or Children well and he forever cheated on his Wife with Colleagues,Students,and I'm sure any other Woman who'd spread her Legs to him.
He is a retired Teacher,so I'm certain he has a very nice Retirement.Now that my Friends Mother died he has only himself to provide for,but I understand his reasoning for telling her no.
I called a SIL to my Friend Day before Yesterday and she told me that my Friend's Dad would pay for the Medication she takes and help her financially if she would hold a Job and he see she trying.
Of course she asked for Money again..she cupped my Face in her Hands and looked me straight in the Eyes and told me I remind her of her Mother.She also held the sides of her Temples and while shaking her Head said,"I'm crazy."
Her Mother died during Summer and she cared for her 13-15 Month's of her illness.Since her Mother died,she has been in Hospital twice.She was abusing Valium/Zoloft and was buying Xanax off the Street.
When my Cousin and I were talking,she told me that before my Friend went into Hospital first time,she and her Husband were suppose to have $20,000 in their Account,but there was nothing.Guess she blew it on slots.
During one of her Hospital stays a Brother went to visit and the Psychiatrist told him he could take her Home.Brother asked,"Shouldn't her Husband do that?".The Doctor told him,"Well,if your heading Home you can take her."The Brother asked the Doctor what is going on with her.The Doctor told him,"She's spoiled.".
Her first Marriage turned out really bad.She Married a Guy she dated in High School and thought it would last forever.She told me Baby's were never brought up and during the last 6 Years of Marriage there was no sex.They Divorced after 15 Years,both remarried and have a Daughter a piece.He has 3 Step-Children.
Since she and her second Husband have lived here they lost a Home and had to file Bankrupt.I don't know how long she's had this addiction,but from the looks of things a long time.
It is with hope she gets her problem taken care of and soon,but she's got to want it and is the only Person who can change it.
If I get hassle from her about repaying me,I WILL talk to her Husband and take her to small Claims Court.The Razor will be returned too..