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   Posted 12/27/2008 6:20 PM (GMT -6)   
I was wondering if you all would keep my daughter in your prayers.  She has decided to go thru with divorcing her husband.  Not sure if you remember a few weeks ago I had posted that she had left her husband and was partying alot.  Well turns out she has not been doing anything wrong, it was just her husband saying things to get us on his side.  She had a prescription drug problem recently and has been off them for about 4 mos now.  But she is clean.  She has gone out a few times with her sister and girlfriends, but nothing horrible like he led us to believe.
She came down to our home for about five days just before Christmas because she just had to get away from her husband and his family.  I saw her and being able to talk to her face to face I have seen that she is actually doing very well.  Her husband actually kicked her out of the house because of something his mother had said to him, then when he realized it wasn't true tried to get her to come back.  But it was just the last straw for her.  She had to leave her kids with him, because she has no job or home at this time.  She is staying with her youngest sister, sharing a room in a house.  She calls and visits her kids as much as possible.  She has always been the main caregiver for these kids, and now her estranged husband is using the kids as weapons to hurt her. 
She has been emotionally abused by this man most of her marriage and now he is angry because she is not putting up with any more abuse.  She is trying to collect unemployment for the time being, and is trying to get in touch with a local woman's shelter to get some financial help to get back onto her feet as well as some legal help.  But has to wait until Monday to talk more with them.
The reason I ask for prayers for her is because I am so frightened for her wellbeing right now.  Now that she has told her husband that it is over he is getting pretty evil with her.  He is saying the most disgusting things to her, and I can tell its going to get ugly.  My biggest fear ever since they got married was if she ever left him he would hurt her.  Please pray the womans shelter is able to help her and that God would keep his protection around her at all times and keep her safe.  With this guy, I wouldn't put anything past him.  And the hardest part is she is five hours away in another state from me and her Dad.  (Yes beloved husband is her real Daddy, long story:)  I also ask for prayers for my grandbabies who are caught in the middle.  The only reason he wants the kids right now is because he can use them to hurt her.  He has never cared for them, its always been them and their Mom.
So please keep Lisa and her kids in your prayers.  I appreciate it so much, I am so worried for her.  Thank you, prayers on this board have been powerful, so keep em coming for her.  I will keep you posted on how things go.
God Bless,
Gail *Nanners*
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. Currently my Crohns is in remission.

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   Posted 12/27/2008 6:21 PM (GMT -6)   
Oh and of course, this has my anxiety ramped up some. Thanks again guys!!!
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. Currently my Crohns is in remission.

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   Posted 12/27/2008 7:04 PM (GMT -6)   

Gail, you and your daughter are in my prayers. She sounds like she needs spiritual protection for what this man is going to put her through. it must hurt you so much to see you daughter in such a difficult situation, i can only imagine.

I claim the promise of Phillipians 4:6 for you and your family,

love always, Maz XX

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   Posted 12/27/2008 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   

Dear Nanners,

I think you have a right to be anxious but let's ramp it down a bit, stay in the moment but be on the alert at all times is my motto when one of my children is in trouble.

I had an ex-husband that was similiar to your daughters but he would do scary things and he too would call my parents who lived 100 miles away and tell them stories that were lies.  He would say I was out in bars when in reality I was at work.  He was very jealous and we had 3 children. I worked afternoons and  he was a danger to my children.

He would drive to where I worked and flatten all 4 of my tires to see if one of  my "boyfriends" would bring me home.  I would call him crying and had no way to get home.........and why when I was working in a factory to help us support our family would he do this to me?  Beause I was a **** he would say.  

When finally I would get home, he would be crying and oh so sorry.................

One night he came and scratched the big  "F" You in my  car door with a nail...............then he cried and spray painted over it with a different color paint.  He would beg me not to leave, how could I stay? I stayed 7 years and then had to leave.

I took my kids and we sold the house and I lived alone still working in a factory evenings with a sitter taking care of my children. 

I met my current hubby, the love of my life, and he took over as the father the children needed.  We have been married for 37 years now.

You have my prayers and all my support and know I understand all to well.  I lived your daughter's life many years ago with no one to turn to.  My stepmother did not want me and 3 kids at her place. It was my dear Father who never got mad who finally blew his cork.  He told my ex" If she is so bad why don't you let her go?"  That gave me permission to go as back then a divorcee was not approved of much.

Gentle Hugs to you.


PS, I just figured out when my anxiety started  smhair    LOL


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   Posted 12/27/2008 8:07 PM (GMT -6)   
I will be praying for you & your family. I do hope everything is resolved quickly & peacefully.


Green Grove
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   Posted 12/27/2008 8:18 PM (GMT -6)   
I just read the posts and am tongue tied with emotion right now. I just wanted to say that you and your daughter and grandchildren are in my prayers right now. . . along with my other friends on here. I am just sorry that things have to be so crazy for people. . . but I guess that's life. . . sigh . . .

Hope you all are able to keep you chin up and smile for yourselves. It is so easy to forget us when loved ones are in danger or hurting.

Take care!

Much Love, Hugs, Peace and Comfort!!!
Your Bro,
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~ Abraham Lincoln ~
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before making changes to your meds or lifestyle :)

Post Edited (Green Grove) : 12/27/2008 7:13:50 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 12/27/2008 9:00 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm so sorry that you and your daughter and grandchildren are having to go through all of this.  I will pray for all of you.  I do hope that your daughter will be able to get some help and get the children back very soon.  You hang in there and keep us posted.  Hugs to you!

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   Posted 12/28/2008 1:55 AM (GMT -6)   
Nanners, your daughter and grandchildren are in my thoughts and prayers! A few things...I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years. He always told me if I left he would find me. I was terrified. When I did finally leave, he didn't do a thing. Had I known that, I would have left many years earlier. Anyway, my point is, he may be all talk.

Perhaps your daughter can convince him to go to counseling to help with the divorce. He may learn how important it is to remain civil for the sake of the kids. A restraining order might be a good idea if he proves to be unreasonable.

Lastly, try not to make yourself sick over the situation. It must be difficult! I can only imagine. Things will settle down and all will turn out okay. You'll see.....

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   Posted 12/28/2008 11:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks so much for your kind words and prayers. It is my hope that it is all words, but I have heard some of the things he has said and seen some of his actions, and it does scare me. He is extremely afraid of my husband, so my hope is that stays in his mind at all times. I am trying to stay out of it, and let them handle it, but its hard at times. Its probably more of me not wanting my daughter to suffer this pain, but know she has to go thru this. Hopefully she will come out of this stronger and even better. I would feel so much better if she had the kids with her, but hopefully that will happen soon. Thanks again everyone.
Been living with Crohn's Disease for 33 years.  Currently on Asacol, Prilosec, Estrace, Prinivil, Diltiazem, Percoset prn for pain, Zofran, Phenergan, Probiotics, and Calcium.  Resections in 2002 and 2005.  Also diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and Osteoarthritis. Currently my Crohns is in remission.

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   Posted 12/28/2008 1:54 PM (GMT -6)   

I'm surely praying for you all!

You're going through a pretty frightening time right now, but it sounds like your daughter is doing all the right things to protect herself. Also, her husband is not likely to harm the children if he is using them as a weapon to make her suffer. Abusers get their jollies by being able to continue their ugly power trips, and don't like to expose themselves for the evil creatures they are. Harming the children would do just that: show him up to all his community as a beast, and that's something he can't afford to do.

Trust that our prayers will be answered, and that your daughter is developing a strong system for support, safety, and advocacy as she goes through with what sounds like a very wise decision.

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