I agree Kitt. . . You know it is not just a woman thing :) Guys care/obsess about
their looks too and I used to be bad until I learned to love myself. . . And ALL of you ladies ARE very beautiful people to ME. Not all men are pigs that only see the frame of the wonderful painting :)
Take heart and learn to love yourselves. It will
open many, many doors for you. I know because it has for me. I've been walking with cane since I was 28 and put on tons of weight that I've just about
lost because of that. Before I was into hiking, biking, rollerblading, skiing, jogging, walking, swimming, etc. I think as all of us get older we are sometimes "shadows" of our former selves, or are we just new and improved because we have better knowledge to be able to cope and survive?
I know I'm a survivor and it is up to you to choose what you want to be in life. A huge thing that is related to self worth is being able to accept a compliment. . . I used to be bad at this too. . . felt like I was not worthy enough for a compliment and would make excuses like someone would tell me they loved my outfit and of course I would say thing like "This old thing? It's just been sitting in my closet for years." Accept the compliment because every one of us are worthy and will learn to love themselves. I will make this my mission because I love you all and this thread is so sad. I wish for the peace in your hearts, minds and souls.
Edit: I hope I'm not offending anyone by telling it how "I" see it. And it's not like I'm bouncing around thinking I'm all that or perfect/whatever. I am always a work in progress, wearing the black to look slimmer etc :) The CBT has helped me tons although and sometimes a person may have to work through it a little everyday for the rest of their lives. As most of you know, I am also a nurse that takes care of my 87 year old grandmother, and I am constantly working with her to boost her confidence ever since she told me a few years back that she quit looking at herself directly in the mirror, because she did not recognize herself anymore. . . That she was all wrinkled and ugly. . . Oh man that pulled on my heartstrings a lot, because in my eyes she is so lovely. Anyway, not meaning to offend. . . Just some food for thought :)