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   Posted 12/31/2008 10:44 PM (GMT -6)   
   Posted by Debaser and I know alot of you can relate to this, and have some input just to help with facts that have help you to cope that can now be past on to others and if you feel up to it we can try to get this kind of personal experiences cut down to the facts of one problem area at a time and see if we can get it posted in the resource pages
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------By Debaser-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
My anxiety presents itself in two ways, most often concurrently but certainly not always:

1. What I'd characterize as significant abdominal distention. So much pressure builds up in there that I get very nauseated.
2. A heightened nervousness. Lots of fidgeting and quirks. Racing thoughts, too.

Sometimes the heightened nervousness will happen by itself. Occasionally that will lead to the abdominal thing but not very often; usually if it starts out with being nervous it will not get to my stomach.

Most often I don't feel outwardly nervous but my stomach bloats up like I've been impregnated with the spawn of Satan and I get quite ill. This leads to being very nervous...I'm emetiphobic. This is my most common anxiety (Bloating, then nausea, then nervousness) and the more nervous I get, the more physically uncomfortable I get.

Back to the "heightened nervousness without distention/nausea" state...I can be quite susceptible to various health anxieties during this time. I'd rather be this way if I had to choose but it's not exactly a walk in the park.

However, I've gotten better with dealing with this over the last 1.5 years or so. Klonopin has helped tremendously. Finally able to calm down and step back, I was able to examine things for the way they are and devise coping strategies. Most of them involve a creative process. Photography, writing, playing guitar. And they also involve changes in the way I think. Used to be, I'd wake up in the morning thinking that feeling bad was inevitable. Now I no longer allow myself to think that, even when I wake up with anxiety. When I do have it, most of the time I can tell myself "this will pass very soon" and it does.

I wouldn't say it gets to "panic" very often anymore. Only occasionally.

But I still have my bad days. Sometimes, I think, we just get in bad moods like all people. And when we get that way we're thinking negatively and are less open to our own coping strategies.

I'd like to add that for a time I tried to "fight" anxiety back. Sometimes getting really mad at it actually worked, but not usually. Most often it would make things worse. So instead I just sort of let it happen. I've never tried formal CBT but I think a lot of what I've figured out is similar. I get through most days pretty well and I have a very stressful job. Literally on the go all the time. I often dread the road but in reality I know it's my savior.

Health anxiety remains a bit of a problem. I have sinus issues and get lots of headaches. When the headaches venture into migraine territory things get weird and I'll have all kinds of bad thoughts about brain tumors and retina problems and whatever else. Plus, I fear getting sick. Not a cold, but the flu. Boy do I have a fear of the flu and sinus infections. I haven't gotten the flu (knock on wood) but I've had two sinus infections recently. Funny thing is, when they really set in with a fever and all of that, I'm calm no matter how miserable I am. When it's ramping up that's when I worry, trying to do everything I can to keep the infection from setting in. Probably not a bad anxiety to have but not a comfortable one.

So that's what happens to me and how I deal with it.

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Post Edited (freezinginAK) : 12/31/2008 9:33:05 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/1/2009 12:13 AM (GMT -6)   

My anxiety and panic comes from getting up in the morning and feeling I have no purpose and I have been this way for 3 years now, ever since I lost my daily purpose of going to work.

I also have a difficult time dealing with what others think of me, if I say something and people take it wrong and I start getting criticized I take it to heart and feel like I have again given people one more reason to push me away.  I always try to please people so they like me but I fail miserably and assume it is my fault.  Yes I am sensitive by nature and I am working on it with the CBT Moodgym but I wish others could understand that A & P and Depression are deadly diseases just as much as diabetes, and  cancers.  The pain in your mind freezes you in one spot, you don't know what to do. You feel like you don't belong here. Your mind is  frozen. And you are so afraid.

People with diabetes need friends who understand their disease and not be judge because of their illness.  I find I am afraid to say how I feel as people will judge me and not want to be around me.  That is what happened when I told people I had depression, they did not want to be around someone who is sad.  How can you not be sad when no one is there for you.  My own daughter told me she wants to be with happy people.

What do I do, well I spend time here trying to help others break out of their anxiety and depression.  I am trying to get a part time job.

If I could I would go west to visit my son more.  I have spent a lot of time at the Cancer center with my sister and I pray for all the people there.

If you met me in person, you would never know I was a person with depression. I truly like to talk to people and I visit with the cancer patients and really listen to what they have to say...............I understand their tests and their pain and I try to take home with me that I must accept who I am and not let others comments dictate who or what I am.

Tommorow is January 1st, 2009.............I am going to be me.  I am going to accept who I am and I am going to get mad and fight back when my anxiety and low self esteem try to sneak in.  I am going to remember I am a good person. 

And yes I am going to continue to help others as if I just sit here and take care of me, I am lost.  I need to be useful.

I will keep this goal and give myself permission to be human.

I hope each of you can do the same.




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   Posted 1/1/2009 6:43 AM (GMT -6)   
My anxiety comes from worrying about everything........
and everyone I care for
I have lost almost each of them to death
When dad went a few months back I was facing my own mortality I talked to Lil sis about this and we did talk thru it
IF not for KITT I would have been so lost
I was sitting like a babe in a chair for hours not wanting to do anything not even come here
Seeing the TV but not seeing the TV ya know
Crying for no reson or perhaps for many reasons I dont know

FINALLY i decided to find my inner strength once again with her help and get back to ME
THE ME I know and I am good wih the me I know loves her daughter more than life.......

I am now learning toi celebrate all that Mom n Dad did in their lives and what they did for us kids and adults not mourn them
THEY would not expect that from me............
I am truly BLESSED to have lil sis in my dailky life and also so many others here with their luv n support
YOU will never know what you have done for me ............Lil sis ..............YOU do
Luvs..........Cowgirl up
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   Posted 1/1/2009 10:06 AM (GMT -6)   
I like Skitt worry about what others think of me, but I am getting a little better with that now. Its definetly not easy. I have to keep telling myself that I am a good person, and try not to take others words to heart. My anxiety is really rooted in my health. I have a chronic and incurable bowel disease (same as Lyn's, but milder). I have always used alot of sick days because of this condition. It will just flare out of no where sometimes, so it affects your ability to make plans. So anytime I make plans in the future, the anxiety will kick up some, because here comes the usual worries. What if I get sick, what if I ruin the trip for my husband, what if, what if, what if. Luckily we have new management at my job now, but the old managers were not sympathic to my illness at all. I still go to work many days, I should have stayed home, because of the complex the old management created. Think of having a really bad case of the stomach flu, ALL THE TIME, and you might get a portion of the picture of how I or Lyn feels on our bad days. Most mornings I wake up and feel like poop, but as soon as my meds kick in I am usually good to go. If you were to see me in the mornings you would laugh, as I always have a microwavable heating pad on my stomach:) If I am addicted to something, its these darn heating bags:) And Healingwell of course too!!

What do you think causes your anxiety?
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   Posted 1/1/2009 2:35 PM (GMT -6)   
My anxiety is caused by worrying about everyone and everything. . . Most of the time things that are beyond my control. It is also because of my health too. . . I think each thing fuels the other at times. I have costo which causes such flares in my chest that it scares me and make me so sick at times I just cry. I, like you Nanners, have my homemade microwave bean bag on my stomach and ribs a lot to just get some relief (it's my secret addiction too:) Anyway, I am just a big kid at times and really could just use a hug, but I put on my happy face and move on most every day and try not to complain :) You won't see too many posts like this about me all over the place :) But here is a piece of my soul that I am opening up and sharing to you all whom I trust and love. This is a good thread Cowboy to get everyone to open up and let go!

I sure hope everyone gets to feeling better and let's make this New Year a year of discovery and recovery as much as we can :)

Luvs to you all!
Cowboy up!
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   Posted 1/1/2009 2:47 PM (GMT -6)   
My name is in print!!!! Millions of people look at this everyday! I'm SOMEBODY now! hhaha...That's a paraphrase of Steve Martin's lines in "The Jerk" when he finds his name in the phone book.

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   Posted 1/1/2009 2:50 PM (GMT -6)   
LOL, you are cracking me up Debaser :) I love that movie by the way!
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