Hey Ally, welcome... very much like you, I've always been taught to suck it up. And very much like you, my problems get worse at that time of the month, about a week to a week and a half in advance, and I'm 37. I think you do need to see someone, and don't be embarrassed to ask a good doctor for help. Like you, I have trouble asking for help sometimes, but I'm learning a step at a time (literally) that this is what I must do. Our health is all we have. Please keep posting here and I wish you well. I hope others can offer advice to you as well.
Dx Crohn's Disease 1996
Have taken Prednisone, Pentasa, Rowasa, and Asacol
Currently on Asacol 2400 mg daily to manage remission