First visit to new therapist

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   Posted 1/17/2009 5:59 AM (GMT -6)   
He seems like a great one, I knew him when he worked in PSR. He isn't like my old therapist, she just asked me "what can you do to help with these feelings" AS IF I had the answers. If I had the answers, I would not need a therapist.

I made notes in a notebook before going to get all my points across. He typed out all my problems and concerns, as well as copying my notes. he said he would give all this this info to my psychiatrist, and we hope that the Doc will know the full extent of my anxiety problems, and needing changes in meds. ( have to wait until the 22nd to see the Doc)

I still have worries, and anxiety. I worry I won't make my appointment, or that the doc won't give me the meds I need to relax.

However, I did a lot of talking yesterday, and shopped and paid bills, and by the time I was done I was tired!! Tired (physical) is a good thing because the anxiety seems to go away when I am physically tired. I know i need to exercise and get active, but cannot seem to push myself into it.

I slept a little better last night, but had a bad experience. For the first time, I had a wetting accident. I was dreaming I was urinating, then woke up realizing I was wetting my underwear. I don't recall ever doing that before. On top of of everything else, do i have to wear diapers now? I changed my underwear and went back to sleep. Did not have an accident again, though.

Anxiety is like a rope, ever tightening and not letting go.
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   Posted 1/17/2009 11:38 AM (GMT -6)   

i am so happy to hear that your appointment went well. the fact that he really listened to you and took all of those notes is wonderful-it does really sound like he's one of the "good" ones. i've had my share of experiences with the not so good ones, so i know the frustration there! it is also excellent that you made all of those notes yourself beforehand. it is so easy to forget what we want to mention when we actually get in there. now i really hope that this therapist will be able to get your dr. to adjust your meds so that you can have some relief.

i think finding a good therapist or even a good dr. doesn't magically take away our anxiety issues, but it can give us hope that we WILL get there eventually. i know you will get there, too! you are making such great steps towards recovery and i know you will succeed and feel better!

also, re: your nighttime accident. you said you really wore yourself out with shopping and the therapy. i think what you did is you wore yourself out so much, your body couldn't wake up in time to get to the bathroom! since it didn't happen again, it sounds like a fluke.

anyway-i am very happy for this good development in your life. keep coming here to talk to us and keep on keeping on!
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   Posted 1/17/2009 12:49 PM (GMT -6)   

I am glad you like your new therapist.  Having a trusting relatonship is a huge help in working together with a therapist.

Thank you for the  updat and know we are here for you.

Kick those "What if thoughts" to the curb............

Anticipatory anxiety” is the anxiety one experiences before starting a challenging activity. Most often, anticipatory anxiety is a lot higher than what you actually end up experiencing.

Why do we experience anticipatory anxiety? I think it’s because the panic response is over-zealous about doing its job: trying to locate any danger, in order to protect us. When it can’t find any danger in the present, it looks into the future. Sometimes, the only possible “danger” it can find is something you haven't done yet!

Each time you actually start the new activity – bringing the activity into the present – the anticipatory anxiety fades away.

As you continue to do your healing work, the anticipatory anxiety will gradually lessen on its

You will make it through  this, but remember you are the one that has anxiety, it does not have you.
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   Posted 1/17/2009 1:48 PM (GMT -6)   
I'm glad you had a good appointment with the therapist! That definitely helps as the others stated. If you know exercising would help you sleep, then you need to get to it. No excuses, just exercise. Even just turning on music and moving will help. You're on your way to feeling better!
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   Posted 1/17/2009 7:34 PM (GMT -6)   
Hello again Mark :)

I am so glad that you like your new therapist and it seems to me you are handling this situation and you life right now like a pro :) You should be very proud of yourself!

Take care, keep you chin up, and like Kitt said. . . Just kick them thoughts to the curb my friend :)
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   Posted 1/18/2009 3:27 PM (GMT -6)   
Very pleased you had a good appointment with therapist

I have also had an accident just like you did

I was dreaming I had to piddle next thing I was wet so you are not aone and NO you dont have to wear diapers

I have cut my fliuds down at 430 500 at the lastest and I am doing so much better.........

Thanks for sharing your story I know others can relate

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   Posted 1/23/2009 5:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Have another appt today. cool

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   Posted 1/23/2009 12:57 PM (GMT -6)   
Make sure you go to your appt. with questions written down. Include concerns and ask what you can do for yourself! Good luck and have a great appt.!
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   Posted 1/24/2009 5:21 AM (GMT -6)   
Thanks, we talked for 70 minutes. I feel better talking to someone one on one. I don't have anyone to talk to otherwise, everyone's busy, or don't understand.

Second meeting was yesterday.

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   Posted 1/24/2009 9:08 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey, mark, I'm really glad you feel better working with this therapist. Having a professional you can trust on your side is a huge boost.

And I'm with everyone who thinks the nighttime accident really was due to just being so physically tired that your body didn't wake you as it usually would. The fact that you dreamed about it means to me that your body was trying to communicate to your brain, but couldn't get past the unconscious level that time. Not to worry, friend! I doubt it will happen again.



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