2009 a new year with new goals

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   Posted 1/18/2009 2:54 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi All

I think it's a good idea to right our goals down as it gives us something to aim for and also a sense of achievement when we have reached those goals. I wrote down some goals a few months back but they have changed since then so here are mine:-

1. To stop feeling the need to drink in social situations and to stop drinking.
2. To complete CBT, and to be honest and true to myself whilst going through therapy and to practice all coping techniques.
3. Try and learn to stay in the moment
4. Try not to let my GAD/Depression get the better of me and learn to flow with it.
5. Try not to beat myself up so much if things are not going to good
6. Help and support people on healingwell
7. Take one step at at a time and focus more on the positive things in my life rather than the negative.
8. Find myself a Swedish girlfriend (I wish hehe)

These are mine to aim and work for over the coming months feel free to add yours.

Take Care


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   Posted 1/18/2009 3:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey my European brother :) Hope things are going better for you. I really like this thread because I feel it is so important for everyone to set realistic short and long term goals in their lives :)

1. To keep with my exercise regime daily and my good eating habits. . . Just say no to fast food, lol!
2. To have more fun and not be so serious (at least get better with it :)
3. Quit some of my bad habits that I can't shake off like starting smoking again. . . ughhhh!
4. Continue my education a small step at a time with my busy schedule.
5. Do a few more things here at the farm to make more money and provide food on the table.
6. Try to pull old friends and family togther more. Not just during the holidays.
7. Find a better doc outside of our small community and not freak out if it is a hundred miles away.
8. Don't be mean to myself when I slip on my goals and be proud of the ones I accomplish :)
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   Posted 1/18/2009 6:28 AM (GMT -6)   
  1. watch what i eat- im looking at going back to being a full time vegetarian (was raised one for 18yrs)
  2. eliminate refined sugars from my diet as they decrease immunity
  3. not take as much sick leave from work as i used to
  4. get a hold on my finances and budget like an adult
  5. actively practise my stretching for Fibro, my breathing for AP
  6. Not let other people's issues become mine
  7. be responsible and accountable for my behaviour
  8. regain independance by moving back into my own place
  9. set a better example as a christian
  10. forgive the couple of people who i hold bitter grudges against. it only hurts me.
  11. get moving. even if its only a 20 min walk a day, i need to get moving.
  12. be less cynical and more optimistic
  13. be assertive, not agressive
  14. get the process started to study part time by correspndence (masters adolesant welfare)
  15. finish my local community college Sign Language course
  16. be less moody
  17. tone down my temper
  18. make time for the special people in my life
  19. less withdrawing, more socialising
  20. find a new immunologist

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   Posted 1/18/2009 7:39 AM (GMT -6)   
An other one for my goal list:-

9. Support my family especially my Dad & Mum as they have been there for me and its time to repay them.


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   Posted 1/18/2009 7:47 AM (GMT -6)   

Hi there...My goals this year are...

-Forgive myself

-Stay sober

-Continue eating healthy

-Abstain from men, for a min of 6 months..That will be hard but i need to...Not healthy for me, but a single European man?  Hmm?  Oh thats right we are family, and Im not Sweedish!  ..(jokes Ben!) haha!

-Find inner Peace
-Be the BEST parent in the world!!
-Start living and take control of my life once again!


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   Posted 1/18/2009 11:46 AM (GMT -6)   

Great goals everyone,

I do not write yearly goals down as New Year's goals. New Year's Resolutions are a set-up for failure for me and then I beat myself up for not reaching my goals.

Here's a simple three-step formula to make any change you wish in your life:

First, decide what behavior you want to change or goal you want to achieve. Carefully craft a statement about one or two benefits that will come as a result of changing this behavior or achieving this goal.

How will your life be enriched or improved if you change this behavior or achieve this goal?

Next, make a list of the relevant steps necessary to attain this goal. Be sure to include short-term, mid-term and long-term benefits so you can feel good about all the tiny wins you will have on your way to making this change or achieving this goal.

Last, be sure to include two or three strategies that you are planning to employ. Also include two or three special people who will be your cheerleaders and support you through this time of change. That is jum my 2 cents and if goal setting works for you I am delighted.

I will set daily goals that are simply ways for me to motivate myself  but not everyday.

I am weaning off my AD so I am being gentle with myself right now.  yeah

Thanks Ben for starting this thread.  You are the best.



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   Posted 1/18/2009 12:54 PM (GMT -6)   

Thanks for your input on this as always very informative and I agree daily goals also very important and can keep us focused on the now.



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   Posted 1/18/2009 1:14 PM (GMT -6)   

Ben my dear friend,

I have broken so many New Year's resolutions I am afraid they may haul me to jail someday so that is why I changed my way of thinking............

devil    devil     devil

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   Posted 1/18/2009 5:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Never to hurt the ones I love
Always be supportive and caring
Be the best Mom and friend I can be
Kep working at techniues to win this fight
Wear my Hearing aids lol
Not to wake to a gllom filled day
Awake with a song in my heart and a list of too do things
Get a job working with Alzhiemers PPL

Great thread Ben ..............Luvs
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