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   Posted 1/21/2009 11:28 PM (GMT -6)   
well i've recently got a new boyfriend and hes amazing. were pretty much perfect together. my anxiety has been pretty controllable up until now anyway i find myself analyzing every little thing about our relationship and its causing my anxiety to start up. its making me think about silly things that i know are fine with us yet still it drives me nuts, i'm trying to keep it to myself bcos i don't want to push him away (he knows i have anxiety and he has it as well). does this happen to anyone else? any advice on how i can try to make myself not think/analyze so much?
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   Posted 1/22/2009 1:41 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey :)

I'm glad you met somebody that is cool. I think that is it natural to wonder if a person is good for you or not, especially if you have had issues with past relationships. I feel it can get out of hand when a person starts analyzing every detail. . . In a way it kind of is making that person pay for other's mistakes, IMHO. Since he has anxiety as well, you are in good company with someone with a mutual understanding, so you should share with him the fears you have. Maybe you should just take it slow and let things fall into place one day at a time as we all have to do anyway with this darn disorder. I have had relationships that I did not apply these principals to and they utterly failed because of me and my irrational thinking. Always be true to yourself and what your heart is telling you :)

The best of luck for you both :)

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Post Edited (Green Grove) : 1/22/2009 2:23:05 PM (GMT-7)

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   Posted 1/22/2009 8:46 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there!

I've learned that big events in my life - good or bad - can make my anxiety a little more pronounced. Most people assume we get more anxious just when things aren't good, but for me, any big event makes me more edgy. So I'm not surprised that this great new relationship is making your anxiety a little worse. Try to just accept that that's all it is - a trigger, not a sign of doom. I'm so glad you've found someone whose company you enjoy, and who can understand the anxiety aspect ofyour life.

Good luck!



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