I'm glad you met somebody that is cool. I think that is it natural to wonder if a person is good for you or not, especially if you have had issues with past relationships. I feel it can get out of hand when a person starts analyzing every detail. . . In a way it kind of is making that person pay for other's mistakes, IMHO. Since he has anxiety as well, you are in good company with someone with a mutual understanding, so you should share with him the fears you have. Maybe you should just take it slow and let things fall into place one day at a time as we all have to do anyway with this darn disorder. I have had relationships that I did not apply these principals to and they utterly failed because of me and my irrational thinking. Always be true to yourself and what your heart is telling you :)
The best of luck for you both :)
Much Love, Hugs, Peace & Comfort . . . Your Bro . . . Sam :)
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