anxiety from being "on" and talking for hours--am I weird?

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   Posted 2/1/2009 8:38 PM (GMT -6)   
 I had an old friend from out of town stay over night so we were together for two days. Since we hadn't seen each other for a year we talked a lot.
Except for our past when we were young, we don't have much in common--family wise (I'm single, she has children and grandchildren), politically, religion, we're opposites.
I had so much anxiety the whole time and it was as bad as the fear you'd have if you knew a bomb was nearby and you knew it was going to go off any second. I mean, heart pounding stomach churning anxiety. I took clonazapam and it did nothing.
I do have a lot on my mind--concerns about changes coming in my life and that's always an undercurrent. I tend to obsess.
I keep wondering why though. I do really like and care about this person.
I'm thinking I was really bored and I think boredom makes me anxious.
And I'm wondering why the clonazapam didn't work. I take as needed and it usually does.
Those two days left me so exhausted, that I slept really late the two days after and I'm still tired and a little anxious. Can't wind down.

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   Posted 2/1/2009 9:19 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Korissa,

When you are in an uncomfortable situation like that, it takes a lot out of you. By the sound of it, the two of you have nothing in common, that makes conversation hard, though you said that you did a lot of catching up. Maybe once you caught up, you realized that you two just didn't click. Then you had all that time left between you. Either way, you have done nothing wrong, so don't beat yourself up over this. You two are still friends, and time changes things, so maybe next time it will be easier for you.

Try to stay in the moment. That is so important in the fight against anxiety.

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   Posted 2/1/2009 11:57 PM (GMT -6)   

Thanks Karen. I've seen "staying in the moment" recommended here a lot lately and it is certainly true and I've put it to use. Wish I would have remembered it those two days.

I just hate how much adrenalin is flowing when this happens and I feel like I'm the only one who deals with things this way.

Yes, I will try to stay in the moment and make it a practice.

It just seems so strange that I'm in my own home and don't feel comfortable and don't even think to excuse myself and go in the bathroom and give myself a lecture!

I've lost confidence in clonazapam, that's for sure.

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   Posted 2/2/2009 11:49 AM (GMT -6)   
The adrenaline can be scary during an attack and I'm sorry to hear about your friend. I know from personal experience that sometimes friends just grow apart over the years. You should feel safe among friends and not panic. I hope you get to feeling better and please stay in the moment and talk to your doc about what is going on.
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   Posted 2/2/2009 12:00 PM (GMT -6)   


I do not do well on house guests that come and stay at my home as I have a small home and it is my safe place. 48 hours of not having any private time would send me up the anxiety scale.

You ended up with an old friend that you have not much in comoon with anymore and that is ok as we all grow and change.

Let go of any feelings you may have that you should have done better and remember to stay in the moment.  The visit is over, leave it in the past.

I even stay in a hotel when I visit my son in Oregon............I just need my own space and privacy. 

Give your self some pats on the back for making it through.




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   Posted 2/3/2009 6:48 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks guys--I feel a little less weird for reacting this way knowing others do too. I guess it's the intensity of my anxiety that upset me and my inability to calm myself down. I thought I'd made some progress in that department.

Am wondering if I mentioned this to a MD, if he'd label me as being a psychological mess! I don't want anything like that in my medical record. He is pretty compassionate and did give me the clonazapam because of the stress I'm under right now.
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