problems with my theraphist

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   Posted 2/25/2009 12:02 AM (GMT -6)   
a few months ago i begin seeing a theraphist to help control my anxiety in the beginning  I could not have ask for a better theraphist this person was very understanding with me she truly understood my illness and help me through alot of difficult times but recently i have grown frustratied with her actions it seems latley i can never reach her at her office and whenever i leave a message with her secretary to call me back it takes days before i hear anything from her and whenever i schedule an appointment for a session i either have to deal with her arriving 20-30 minutes late or having her secretary call me to let me know the session has been cancelled im seriously considering switching theraphist but at the same time i have reached a comfort level with this theraphist and i know it would take awhile to fell relaxed with another person so i really dont know what to do i undrstand she has other patients and she can not always be on call for me whenever i need her but it is really becoming frustraiting  dealing with an unreliable theraphist if anyone has any advice for me i would greatley appreciate it take care everyone nathan

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   Posted 2/25/2009 4:38 AM (GMT -6)   
Hi there Nathan!

You said that she has been like this "recently" which probably means she wasn't like this before? Maybe she is really busy? I do not think it is professional of her to arrive 30 mintutes late for your appointment or cancel it though. Can you ask her secretary about this? You are paying for the sessions and you have every right to bring this up.

I understand that finding a new therapist would not be easy, as you say, you can't always find a therapist that you will feel comfortable talking to. I would try to talk to the secretary first and ask why this has been happening (being late, canceling sessions etc). She should be able to talk to your therapist and give you an explanation. If you can talk to your therapist directly, that would be good, too. There has to be a reason for all this.


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   Posted 2/25/2009 6:03 AM (GMT -6)   

My suggesstion would be to talk to your therapist about your concerns. I'm sure she will be able to ease your mind. I dont suggest doing anything as rash as finding another therapist just yet. It sound like your anxiety is rising due to the issue and do think it should be brought out into the open with her. Good-luck and please keep us posted as to how it all pans out. gillx


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   Posted 2/25/2009 10:58 AM (GMT -6)   
I agree with you that your therapist is not providing you with the security or service  you are looking for in having someone available when you have signed on with her to be your therapist.
Being late for you appointments is something I would certainly address with her although I know this will be hard.  Also the cancellations.
My Pdoc has me assigned to 20 minutes and I better be on time or I could be down to 10 minutes. To cancel an appointment I must do so at least 24 hours in advance or I am automatically charged the $248.00 for her services.  No reason is good enough to cancel after the 24 hour mark.  Ugh.
IMHO patients are due the same respect as the therapist or physician. As you have only been seeing her for a few months and you  "have grown frustratied " it feels to me like you may be losing your trust in her also.
I would look at what you feel will best meet your needs.
Take care and know we are here to support your decisions.

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   Posted 2/25/2009 4:12 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Nate!

I agree with everyone here. Your therapist is not being professional imho, and I think you should follow Kitt's advice on talking with her about your concerns.

Take care and I wish you luck!
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