Need to vent a little..anxiety is out of control

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:14 AM (GMT -6)   
Well this is a bit pointless i just need to vent. I'm like losing my mind right now. I got into a fight with my boyfriends brother Saturday night and i haven't been able to calm down since. I'm back at school which always makes my anxiety forty times worse. Since Saturday I have probably slept about two hours straight. Last night i had the worst panic attack of my life. I woke up shaking and sweating i felt like i was like blind or something i went into the bathroom and well was in there on an off for a couple hours holding a cold rag all over my body. What sucks is I know this is all in my head and I SHOULD be able to control it and i don't know why i cant! I feel so one even takes me seriously anymore it used to scare my boyfriend and hes still very supportive but sometimes i think he thinks im being a drama queen. I started taking the Zoloft Saturday and  i was hoping it'd be a wonder doctor said it could take two weeks to start working  but i dont know how much longer i can wait. im losing my mind! shakehead

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Do you have any type of fasting acting med like Xanax or Valium you can take to stop the anxiety? If not, maybe a call to your doc might be in order for something for the break thru anxiety until the Zoloft kicks in. Also, lack of sleep can be a big trigger for anxiety, any way you can take a day off and try to rest a little? Sending healing prayers your way.

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:23 AM (GMT -6)   
No i dont have any xanax my mom was real mad but the doctor wouldnt prescribe it to me for some reason? I dont know why. But i am taking the day off...ive skipped all my classes so far and I'm just laying in bed trying to get some rest.

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:33 AM (GMT -6)   

Welcome to the healingwell forum you will meet people here who will understand what you are going through. Sounds like you are having a rough time at the moment and im sorry to hear that, I find that if I have an argument with someone it does take me a while to calm down and does affect my anxiety and depression so I now try my best to avoid arguments if I can but find that I can snap quite easily at the smallest of things. Anxiety is a hard thing to control and I have struggled for most of my life with anxiety, I am due some CBT soon which is a type of therapy which has good results with people who suffer with anxiety something you could consider?. You need to give your medication time to kick in and it can take upto 4-6 weeks before you feel any positive effects but every one is different and what works well for one person does not work for an other person. I have yet to find an antidepressant which works for me and have tried a few and find therapy helps me more.

Please keep posting here to tell us how you are getting on we are here to support you and no problem if you just want to vent I find it helps to wright things down. Im sure some more members will be along soon with some more advise.

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:57 AM (GMT -6)   
I have considered therapy I'm just having trouble finding somewhere to go on campus. and thank you all for your support, although i wish no one had to feel like this its nice to know there are so many people here to support one another


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   Posted 3/9/2009 2:14 PM (GMT -6)   
Hi Tara,

Welcome to the A/P Forum. You will learn a lot of techniques here for coping with your anxiety and panic. While you are waiting for your Zoloft to kick in you should check out our many links for breathing & relaxation exercises, plus the link to a free online CBT (therapy) called MoodGYM. You will find these at the top of this forum's page under "Anxiety-Panic Resources." I wish you luck and please keep us updated on how you are doing.

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   Posted 3/9/2009 5:54 PM (GMT -6)   
Welcome to HW and the caring supportive group of ppl we have here
You are definitely NOT alone
I can relate to this one as I ahve just had the worst fight ever with my daughter and I am here just a crying up a storm
Words were heated and alot of pain felt

I hope I can get thru this myself as well
Try therapy and also
Do stay with us

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   Posted 3/9/2009 6:15 PM (GMT -6)   

Hi Tara, I just wanted to say hi and welcome.  I'm sorry you are having a rough time right now.  One thing I do before bed to help relax is to take a hot bubble bath and maybe light a candle and have some herbal sleepy time tea.  I was on zoloft for years and it did help greatly so don't give up!  Let us know how you are doing.  HUGS


LYN, I hope you are feeling better now I'm sending you hugs as well!



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   Posted 3/9/2009 8:36 PM (GMT -6)   

Welcome! I can't add anything to the great advice already given by the others, but just want to let you know that you are *not* alone. A fight with someone always really sets off my anxiety too. Do try to get some rest - it can only help. I surely hope you can get an appointment with a good therapist soon. In the meanwhile, you might check out the MoodGym site and see if it helps you get back on your feet.



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   Posted 3/9/2009 9:13 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks everyone so much for the wonderful advice! I took they day off from classes and went a worked out a bit today and i did sign up for the MoodGym site. Ive calmed down alot i cant believe how much a fight set me off! but thanks again so much! its so nice to have all this support

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   Posted 3/9/2009 10:54 PM (GMT -6)   
If you don't mind me asking, are you in high school or college?  I just wanted to know because I used to have severe anxiety attacks growing up.  I mean, SEVERE.  When I was about 16 or so, I even got to the point where I couldn't go in the school cafeteria for fear of having an anxiety attack.  I was home schooled for a while. 
I will tell you a story that has helped me get over my anxiety attacks. I remember a therapist explaining this to me but it didn't make since at the time because I was even having an anxiety attack while seeing him even.  He told me that in order to get over your just have to face it. I was like, "What...there's no way I can do that." I didn't even really listen to him after that but I do remember a silly little story he told me. He told me an example of this would be a person who is afraid of take that person in a room filled with a balloons and just let them freak out until they finally calm down. I was 16 at the time so I thought, "that would be cruel and wouldn't help me."  I had developed severe social phobia...I cared too much about what others' thought of me. 
I was working at a fast food restaurant during the midst of my "social phobia" and I requested to work in the back making the burgers instead of the front as the cashier around the customers. My old supervisor understood this so she never asked me to work up front. day around Christmas time, a few employees had called out and our new supervisor told me I needed to work the cashier, that they had nobody else. At first I was scared...but then I was like, "OK, maybe I can do this."  Anyway, the line was forever long filled with tired, hungry, and grumpy Christmas shoppers ready to eat.  At the midst of ringing someone up, I had a severe panic attack. I couldn't even count the money she had given me...that's how bad it was. I couldn't think straight.  Well, my new supervisor wasn't too far away and I just loudly told her..."I'm having a panic attack and need a break."  She looked at me strangely and said, "OK", and she finished ringing the customer up for me.  I sat down and started smoking a cigarette...very flustered.  Another employee was on his lunch break and sat down at the table I was at while I was smoking. I told him, "I'm having an anxiety attack and just left what I was doing."  He was like, "Oh, really." Like it was no big deal. I then calmed down while talking to him.  After about 10 minutes, I  told my new supervisor that I was ready to come back.  I finished ringing up that huge line of people and never again, in my life, had an anxiety attack.
I started thinking about what that therapist had told me before about putting the person who was scared of balloons in a room full of balloons.  It made perfect since to me after that. 
about 7 years after that incident, I went back to college to further my education.  I will never forget the struggles I had growing up...but I do believe that fast food job experience helped me get over my anxiety attacks for good (and I never thought anything would). 
I hope everything works out for you.  I am now taking Xanex twice daily as needed. I take one at night just to help me sleep.  You are right about one's all in your head.  Once you figure out HOW to get it out of your head...sometimes by just going through it and realizing everythings going to be OK (like in my case) for example. 
One thing you may want to do though...just in get a medical exam to rule out anything more serious (just in case it isn't "Just an anxiety attack").  Once you have ruled this out, maybe talking with a therapist you trust can be of some help.  Sometimes it doesn't help just to be on medications, and sometimes it doesn't help just to see a therapist. One may help you...the other may not.  Or, you may need both (as I did growing up).  Good luck and post back soon.
By the way...welcome to this magnificant board!!!  You will get tons of great advice and insight here.

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   Posted 3/9/2009 11:10 PM (GMT -6)   
Thank you so much for your story. I seriously just love going through this board and just reading about everyone's different struggles and triumphs and how they got where they are now.
I am a freshman in college right now but i had my first panic attack when i was a senior. I did go to the ER once when i was having a panic attack they thought i may have a blood clot since i was on birth control and smoking (its on an off thing bad very panic attacks i know) but i didnt
My doctor did tell me to look at getting help from a therapist on campus but ive been having trouble finding anything

thanks so much

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   Posted 3/10/2009 7:13 AM (GMT -6)   


Welcome to HealingWell and the A & P Forum.  I am glad you have found us and also glad to see the great responses you have received.

You have ocme to a wonderful place to meet new people that are going through the same issues as you are. I look forward to getting to know you better.

I hope we are able to meet your needs here in HW and again a big warm welcome to the Family of A & P.



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