Ideas for dealing with anxiety of being home alone.

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   Posted 3/12/2009 11:25 AM (GMT -6)   
My dh is going on a business/pleasure trip next week for 5 days and I'm a little anxious about it. I'm sure I'll be fine, but I was wondering if anyone had tips for me on things I can do to set my mind at ease while he's gone. I"m fine during the day. I am always alone or with my kids during the day, it's just the nights that get me anxious. The time just before I would normally be drifting to sleep. The "what ifs" get me. What if I get sick or the kids get sick, or the house starts on fire, or robbers come, etc. It makes me feel better to have some kind of plan in place just in case something terrible were to happen. My ils live about 20 minutes away, so not too far and I have friends in town, but not close enough friends to call in the middle of the night.
I guess I get worried being the only responsible adult around when he's gone. Any advice?

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   Posted 3/12/2009 11:43 AM (GMT -6)   
How about pulling the kids into bed with you? At least you would have company at night, and also having the kids there would keep your mind occupied in providing for them. Just a thought!!
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   Posted 3/12/2009 3:24 PM (GMT -6)   
Thanks Gail! I've thought about that actually. I don't think they'll sleep well with me on a schoolnight, but I just might do that on the weekend :-).

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   Posted 3/12/2009 5:36 PM (GMT -6)   

Do you have a dog?  I have felt so much more comfortable be home alone now that we have a dog.  I used to spook being alone at night when my kids were younger and my hubby worked night shift.

I even called the police one night because I got so spooked.

I like Nanners idea too..........have a slumber party. 

Keep your cell phone close to you.  I will keep mine on the bedstand when I am home alone.

Remember when the sun comes up you will be fine so keep telling yourself you will be ok. You can call your hubby in the middle of the night just for reassurance.



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   Posted 3/12/2009 6:13 PM (GMT -6)   
It took me a long time to be comfortable alone after my divorce. Some great suggestions have already been given. Also, you could leave a few lights on throughout the house and a porch light on all night. I've also left my TV on all night (with the volume off) to make it look like someone was still awake. Blessings, Julie
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   Posted 3/13/2009 9:28 AM (GMT -6)   
I'm a really heavy sleeper so my biggest fear w/ my husband on third shift is that someone would break in and I wouldn't wake up until they were in my room. So I locked my bedroom door so I would at least wake up. Silly I know. I'd just prepare yourself so you feel more comfortable. Maybe keep a baseball bat under the bed. If you are close w/ any neighbors let them know you will be alone and ask them to keep an eye on your house. That way you could have someone to call if you got scared. Don't appear scared in front of the kids if at all possible. I remember the one time my dad went away on business my mom seemed really nervous and I could tell. LIke others have said, keep a phone nearby. After the first night it will get easier!! You could also sleep on the couch downstairs if you would feel more comfortable. Could you drive him to the airport? That way you could still have two cars in your driveway like normal. You will be fine!!

Kitt my fear was always that my husband would come home from work early and I would hear him and think it was someone else and get scared for no reason... or hesitate if someone was in my house to make sure it wasn't him. We decided on a rule that if he got out of work early he would call home and tell me before coming into the house, even if it woke me up. I loved that rule.
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