I wanted to get a few opinions, im not sure if theres a wrong or right way but i have heard different things.
I had a very abusive ex who i was with for a while, about a year ago the anger i felt towards him re surfaced and i found myself not knowing how to deal with it, i felt frustrated that i couldnt release it back to him because the time had past, it was such a strong awfull emotion it sent me on the most severe panic attacks. Since then i talked about it with my dad who said If you let go at your anger and see him as another person with hes own issues he has to deal with, and get on with your life the anger will subside, because anger hurts u more than the person you direct it to, i have found this to be true and so i havent had another problem. I have also read through buddhist books and so on, that in order to let go of anger we must forgive and let go.
I have felt alot better but in the back of my mind didnt want to focus on it too much.
My psychologist however believes in her opinion that the way she thinks it should be released is to imagine being angry with him and hitting him over and over again untill u feel completly drained and keep doing untill all anger is released, i oppose this and dont feel comfortable with this, that is exacly what i was doing that left me so frustrated that led me to my panic attacks.
I dont see how this is healthy.