To those who wonder why I'm not on welfare...
I got married when I was twenty and immediately got pregnant for twins. My husband was in school and had just taken a new job and we didn't have insurance. I went on Medicaid. However...it took six years but we paid every dime of it back.
My husband is a college professor and I am a writer. I have had four books published. Don't think this is a money maker. After the agent, distributors, publisher and book stores get a cut I only make pennies on each book. My husband taught on the Military Bases when we lived in VA, and we had benefits. But when my mom was dying of cancer, we moved back to NY to take care of her and now he teaches on-line for our soldiers in Iraq, Afghanistan and other war zones. There are no benefits included in his contracts. We are scraping by, because if the student load drops due to some horrific attack, he has no classes.
I completely understand why people that suffer from severe anxiety find it difficult to work. In many ways I am fortunate to have found some things I can do at home and still help out financially. I also suffer from fibromyalgia and Meniere's disease(a disorder where the ear fills with fluid and I can spend days spinning, throwing up and falling down).
We don't qualify for any kind of assistance. We own a home and a car. Plus a small retirement fund. We struggle...but that's okay.
I don't want to depend on the government to take care of us anyway. Too many people go on welfare thinking it is a stepping stone to something more promising in the future only to find out that they are better off staying on it. And, of course, they are. So it becomes a lifestyle that passes on from generation to generation. Most people have no intention of this happening, but it does because by the time they are ready to hit the job market, they find they can't live on minimum wage..pay for day care...taxes...have no benefits...
True2Myself...that's all I am saying. I am so happy you are thinking of doing something creative and pray that you find something that makes you a strong, independent woman. Your son is lucky to have a mom that loves him so much...just don't get caught in the 'trap'. Work hard on your passions and when the time comes, you may surprise yourself and not only have a job, but have one that you love.
fibro, menieres disease, RLS, anxiety disorder, disc compression, scoliosis, spinal stenosis TMJ Meds: Lexapro and valium