my boyfriend promised to stay up and watch me till i fall asleep...but he fell asleep

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Date Joined Apr 2009
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   Posted 4/21/2009 12:09 AM (GMT -6)   
he always promises to stay awake till i fall asleep.. he never does and breaks his promises, but he works at 8am every day so icant expect him to stay up till 3 or 4 am like i do right? i swear im not crazy but for some reason the last 3 weeks i cant stand to be alone and i feel like im forcing every one to stay up late or sleep over or just hang out with me 24/7 litterally. just 3 weeks ago i was the one always wanting peace and quiet.. and i would be the one to turn my back to my boyfriend in bed when i sleep. and i wouldnt need comfort at all, i was sooo independent. funny how things change in a matter of seconds huh? im trying so hard not to worry about asthma attacks but its causing me to have such bad anxiety. im not 100% positive its anxiety tho... these are my symptoms right now please tell me if it sounds familar?
1. cant sleep
2. when i stand up i feel weak and a little woozy
3. my throat always goes from feeling normal then dry and tight with a ball in it out of no where
4. like im in a dream
5. i think about my breathing At least once every 5 minutes
6. i start thinking the house smells like mildew and makes me start breathing weird
7. i get startled really easy from like a loud noise or when my boyfriend laughs to much it scares me, or when i laugh to much i get a worried feeling and think to myself..i shouldnt be laughing
8. some lower back pain that comes and goes.
9. last but not least i start feeling all this when i know my boyfriend is sleeping and i get weird feelings when i think about tommorow morning and being alone. i always gotta have a master plan on who will hang out with me at7am.. not easy
please reply! i have no idea about anxiety or panic attacks!! thanks cry

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   Posted 4/21/2009 8:48 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey, crystal,

I think a lot of us share many of the symptoms you're describing, so they can come about from panic and anxiety. Have you been able to see a doctor yet about what's going on with you? Only a one-on-one meeting can really help you get your questions answered about what's going on with YOU. For me, the worries about trying to diagnose myself get all wrapped up in wondering what to do next, and it's so much better after you get good advice from a doc who's paying attention to you and will be following through.

I understand the desire not to be alone. When you're feeling unstable, friends and family can be a real comfort.



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   Posted 4/21/2009 10:18 AM (GMT -6)   
Hey crystal,
I think you are describing feelings of anxiety and I know how awful it feels when noone knows your afraid and feeling like your all alone in a crowded room.
My hubby will sit with me for a few minutes and then be off to sleep too. He has to get up for work so I cannot expect him to sit with me until I fall asleep as sometimes I could toss and turn for hours. I remember many nights sitting alone in my living room crying and knowing there was noone that knew had sad I was feeling.
I am glad you are setting daily goals and most of all I hope you have a therapist and have been seeing a physician to discuss your anxiety issues with and to set up a plan to help you heal.
Gentle Hugs to you


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